Hi, I think it is wonderful that women have choices and the fact is, sometimes it is a really bad time to have a baby. Sometimes it isn't even realistic. Probably too man 'try to make it work' to the detriment of their own life and that of the babies.
So, in America, we have choices. That's where you are at now.
I don't know how your boyfriend will feel. But how do YOU feel? That is really the key question here. Are you in a place where being a mother with or without a boyfriend in the picture would be a good idea? Are you financially independent? Have a stable home to offer a baby? Willing to give up all your money (as wow, babies/children are expensive) and free time (all time not spent working to support babies is usually spent caring for the baby)?
Now, I planned my pregnancies after I married and think babies are wonderful. But that is when you are ready and prepared for what they bring with them. Even as much as I wanted them, I will tell you they require more than I ever imagined of me.
So, think about this first in terms of how you feel about becoming a mother and accepting the responsibility and challenge of raising a child. That is your first thing to figure out. This is a good time to think of what your goals are--- college? Trade school? Job? Stay on track with those things regardless if you have the baby or not--- SO important for today's woman.
Then, think about which option works for you. Keeping the baby may make the most sense to you. Or perhaps you will pick the beautiful option of adoption to give a couple who can't have a baby the chance to have one to love. Win win for everyone and they even have open adoptions these days. However, you do have to go through the pregnancy with that choice. And last, termination/abortion. This is a good option for a woman that wants to wait until it is a better time in her life to have a child.
so, I'm here any time you need to talk and wish you all the best.
I know it he isn't the father but god gave you this little blessing for a reason he might be upset but you never how it might turn out I'm against abortions not bashing you hun or anything I hope everything turns out right for you :)
Totally agree! Its so sad this is a forum for support not nasty comments on their own personal opinion.
You need to sit and think about what is more important to you, this is your life! If you have any doubts about termination whatsoever then my best advice is to not go ahead with it. If this guy loves you he will stand by you - but dont get ur heart set on it because he will me upset at first. But seriously your baby must come first.
Dont let any nasty comments get to you, you did the right thing by asking but some mamas dont understand
take care and keep in touch with us!
It's ultimately your decision but I believe everything happens for a reason and that baby is placed in your life for a reason you might not see it now and it's a hard situation to deal with especially being young and in love but you have to think about the future if you are happy to be pregnant then why would you want to just terminate that joy. With your boy friend one of two things could happen he can either walk away or step up to the situation. I'll be praying for you. And here if you need to talk.
Its ur personal desicion... do not let others comment or make u feel bad. listen to your heart... U r the only one who can take the right decision...
Keep your baby. Your child will forever be around & will always be your baby. He can up & leave you at any time. & she is right ^^^ if your already having doubts about aborting your baby dont do it. You will regret it
Boyfriends come & go , babies are blessings. You shouldn't feel that way & honestly you knew he was in jail so I feel like you shouldn'tdo something you would later on regret
Noone can trll you what to do honey all I can say is you need to sit and have a serious think to yourself of what you thinks best no one can tell you to keep the baby and noone can tell you to terminate just do what you feel in your head and heart I hope it all goes for the best