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Fenton's repair - what is it??
Ever since I first had sex (about 3 years ago), I've had constant pain when my boyfriend enters me.
I've seen numerous specialists and they all seem a bit vague about the problem.
The last one I've seen has advised me to undergo a Fenton's repair operation and says she feels this is the only thing that could help me.
She told me to go away and look it up on the internet and get back to her if I decide to go ahead.
Trouble is I've been on loads of websites and I can't find anything about it!!
Has anybody had this and can tell me more about it or maybe where I could get the information from??
Thanks :)
I've seen numerous specialists and they all seem a bit vague about the problem.
The last one I've seen has advised me to undergo a Fenton's repair operation and says she feels this is the only thing that could help me.
She told me to go away and look it up on the internet and get back to her if I decide to go ahead.
Trouble is I've been on loads of websites and I can't find anything about it!!
Has anybody had this and can tell me more about it or maybe where I could get the information from??
Thanks :)
hi. just make sure you understand that it is a vaginal reconstruction and that a) you really want to do it, b) you've tried the other non surgical ways of dealing with vaginismus and 3) that your [artner supports it. My wife had this but we were misinformed by the surgeon who simply said she would have her tough hymen surgically removed. When we discovered stitches and discovered he's done a fenton's operation I felt betrayed and as if she'd been raped. I was so angry. My wife then went off and had her first sex with some idiot who was able to get his jollies off and give her sexual attention without the history of stress. 20 years later she still lived with the effects of guilt.
Surgery can be great when it's really needed , but if there's another way, it's pretty barbaric.
At least your doctor is giving you the chance to get informed. Ours should have been sent to jail.
Surgery can be great when it's really needed , but if there's another way, it's pretty barbaric.
At least your doctor is giving you the chance to get informed. Ours should have been sent to jail.
Hi there,
Yeah, this is also a major worry for me too....Im really anxious about how to even initiate anything remotely sexual, for a variety of reasons. All the prodding and poking down there...from a medical point of view, has meant that I now just associate it with pain, or negativity, and not pleasure or fun.
Prior to the fenton's being done, about 18 months before actually...after getting a diagnosis for the eczema and seeing a massive improvement, our physical relationship was in tatters, and it wasnt just me that had been effected, he had been affected aswell - not wanting to hurt me etc. So, we went to relate to see a sex therapist, and I cannot recommend this enough.
We went for around 6 months one a week/fortnight depending, and it was a slow and gradual process. Had I not unknowingly had the other issue with the scar tissue - which at that point I wasn't even aware of, I had just put the pain down to the eczema...I think we would have been on our way back to things being normal, but because sex was still painful - all the techniques we were given, although great - sex was still painful, hence no progress.
It was only 12 months later, after sticking my head in the sand all over again, and probably having sex twice, purely through guilt, that I went back to my GP and was sent to Gynie. Thats when the web of skin/scar tissue was discovered and the fentons was recommended.
Its so frustrating, because I could've got this sorted in a relatively quick time, but through the complication of having two separate things going on, its ended up spanning almost 10 years - quite sad really.
I brought up the topic of sex lastnight, and it was awkward - think were both as nervous as each other, and don't really know where to start...so think were going to go back to relate, for the support more than anything...sounds stupid, but a third person advising and suggesting takes the pressure off either one of you.
Good luck, whenever you manage to take the plunge :-) x x
Yeah, this is also a major worry for me too....Im really anxious about how to even initiate anything remotely sexual, for a variety of reasons. All the prodding and poking down there...from a medical point of view, has meant that I now just associate it with pain, or negativity, and not pleasure or fun.
Prior to the fenton's being done, about 18 months before actually...after getting a diagnosis for the eczema and seeing a massive improvement, our physical relationship was in tatters, and it wasnt just me that had been effected, he had been affected aswell - not wanting to hurt me etc. So, we went to relate to see a sex therapist, and I cannot recommend this enough.
We went for around 6 months one a week/fortnight depending, and it was a slow and gradual process. Had I not unknowingly had the other issue with the scar tissue - which at that point I wasn't even aware of, I had just put the pain down to the eczema...I think we would have been on our way back to things being normal, but because sex was still painful - all the techniques we were given, although great - sex was still painful, hence no progress.
It was only 12 months later, after sticking my head in the sand all over again, and probably having sex twice, purely through guilt, that I went back to my GP and was sent to Gynie. Thats when the web of skin/scar tissue was discovered and the fentons was recommended.
Its so frustrating, because I could've got this sorted in a relatively quick time, but through the complication of having two separate things going on, its ended up spanning almost 10 years - quite sad really.
I brought up the topic of sex lastnight, and it was awkward - think were both as nervous as each other, and don't really know where to start...so think were going to go back to relate, for the support more than anything...sounds stupid, but a third person advising and suggesting takes the pressure off either one of you.
Good luck, whenever you manage to take the plunge :-) x x
Hi,Ive just been reading back on your previous comments about life before fentons.....I have had similar problems with sex being SO painful for many years but more so in the past 5 years.I have a wonderful husband,but I m so worried about getting back to sex.I wonder if things will be better now????glad to read you re doing so well.x
Hi,I was told I could bath straight away..?I found it a great relief also with the shower head on low and cool.I did nothing about the lump....just left it.I wonder how many other people out there are suffering and not knowing about this site and what other people are experiencing.x
Hi there,
I had the fentons procedure on the 2nd of this month, so 3 weeks tomorrow. The first few days I was fine, hardly any pain at all, just a little discomfort. Around day 5 onwards to around day 10 I was really quite sore - so much so that I was worried I had an infection.
I was concerned as I felt a little discomfort on one side of the stitches, but much more painful on the other side. I hadn't considered that all stitches are different, some tighter than others etc. I now think this was the case, as 2-3 days later, the pain and tight nipping sensation began to fade. I now have no pain at all, and the bruising in gone completely.
Because I couldn't properly see myself, my boyfriend kept checking the progress for me, particularly when I thought I had an infection. He described a little blister type lump, but this disappeared, so if I were you Id hang fire a few days unless your in a significant amount of pain.
Regarding the bathing - I was advised no baths for 48 hours, then I was free to have them. Initially I found it such a relief to use the shower head on a low pressure setting just to clean the area. I checked about this and was advised it was fine. When I could have baths, I cant tell you how much better lavender oil assisted with the healing, and taking the pinch out of the stitches. I read the tip on a new mums website, and they have the same procedure done relating to apesiotomy (spelt wrong ha!) scars. I put quite a lot in the bath, and also I put some on a panty liner and let it touch the stitches - it has a cooling effect and seriously does help. You can get the lavender oil at the supermarket, its a couple of pounds, compared to a fiver in boots.
Wishing you a speedy recovery :-) x x x
I had the fentons procedure on the 2nd of this month, so 3 weeks tomorrow. The first few days I was fine, hardly any pain at all, just a little discomfort. Around day 5 onwards to around day 10 I was really quite sore - so much so that I was worried I had an infection.
I was concerned as I felt a little discomfort on one side of the stitches, but much more painful on the other side. I hadn't considered that all stitches are different, some tighter than others etc. I now think this was the case, as 2-3 days later, the pain and tight nipping sensation began to fade. I now have no pain at all, and the bruising in gone completely.
Because I couldn't properly see myself, my boyfriend kept checking the progress for me, particularly when I thought I had an infection. He described a little blister type lump, but this disappeared, so if I were you Id hang fire a few days unless your in a significant amount of pain.
Regarding the bathing - I was advised no baths for 48 hours, then I was free to have them. Initially I found it such a relief to use the shower head on a low pressure setting just to clean the area. I checked about this and was advised it was fine. When I could have baths, I cant tell you how much better lavender oil assisted with the healing, and taking the pinch out of the stitches. I read the tip on a new mums website, and they have the same procedure done relating to apesiotomy (spelt wrong ha!) scars. I put quite a lot in the bath, and also I put some on a panty liner and let it touch the stitches - it has a cooling effect and seriously does help. You can get the lavender oil at the supermarket, its a couple of pounds, compared to a fiver in boots.
Wishing you a speedy recovery :-) x x x
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