Orgasm thru intercourse

[justa_youngen_06]

all i haer is how great sex is and how much they are looking forward to doing it again, when i have sex it feels good, i enjoy it, but i am almost positive that i dont climax. during intercourse i am pretty sure i have never had an orgasm, but everytime i recieve oral sex and thru mutual masturbation i have an orgasm....am i not going long enough, or am i just not ready for full on intercourse? because i was wondering what i could do to help that along, but still have sex just the same as alwaya......no changes made there.....

[justa_youngen_06]

Wow, this is crazy, I thought I'd be waiting on responses for days.I was wrong.thanks everybody I'll take everything into perspective....and the exploring thing....oh yeah, can do! heh, thanks guys! <3

[PREGO_SHARI_21]

Ive been sexually active since i was 16... i am 21 now and i have never had an orgasm thru intercourse... always have to do it myself. i gave up long time ago trying to have one, but my boyfriend doesnt know i fake it!!!!

[oceans3]

soooo you still didnt say how old you are!

[justa_youngen_06]

I'm not sure if I really want to say exactly how old I am, I dont want everyone to think they have to censor themslelves or anything like that, because when I talk about an adult issue, I like being spoken to as a young adult not a kid......ya know...i dont want anybody like oooooh, cant say orgasm, oops i said vagina, lol, ya know, i prefer to be spoken to as i speak to ppl.....

[monkeyflower]

About 70% of women need direct clitoral stimulation to orgasm, which intercourse doesn't provide. So, either you or your partner need to use your hands or a vibe on your clitoris during intercourse, if coming then is important to you. You can also certainly orgasm before, after or during intercourse (taking breaks for oral, manual, whatever). However, I'd just encourage you to remember that intercourse is only one of MANY sexual activities, and not the "ultimate" activity our sex-phobic society makes it out to be. So in my book, it really doesn't matter whether you come during intercourse or not :-)

I'll also add that orgasm is a lot like happiness, when you think about it. The more you strive for happiness, the less likely you are to find it. Chasing it only drives it away. Only when you are totally in the moment and fully involved in an activity, not even thinking about whether you're happy (or in this case, orgasmic), can it finally overtake YOU ;-)

[BearHitch]

Just remember you must be 18 years of age to post on this forum, and if you're not... well, then we have that freedom and discernment to censor what we say.