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Hi everyone,
Looks like we're all in the same boat here! Gay male with potential exposure 3/25. After intercourse, found out he tested negative in Jan., but I don't know him so I don't know for sure if he's telling the truth. Scenario: I was the insertive partner only, condom was on initially but apparently didn't come off with me. He confired it was 'right there' after intercourse though so I am hoping I was protected the entire time. There was no oral sex at all peformed so no risk there. The next day, noticed chafing at the base of penis and on scrotum, light, healed after a day or so. Hoping that wasn't a good route for transmission. Since 3/25 when intercourse occurred, I had my routine HIV test at 9 days (of course too soon for the most recent event) and then again at my STD screening due to 3/25 intercourse (neg for all) at 22 days, again, HIV came back negative. I am a bit anxious about the whole thing because I have never had the chafing and the whole condom not coming off with me thing, I am always very careful but this frightened me. Anyone have similar experience they'd like to discuss?
Looks like we're all in the same boat here! Gay male with potential exposure 3/25. After intercourse, found out he tested negative in Jan., but I don't know him so I don't know for sure if he's telling the truth. Scenario: I was the insertive partner only, condom was on initially but apparently didn't come off with me. He confired it was 'right there' after intercourse though so I am hoping I was protected the entire time. There was no oral sex at all peformed so no risk there. The next day, noticed chafing at the base of penis and on scrotum, light, healed after a day or so. Hoping that wasn't a good route for transmission. Since 3/25 when intercourse occurred, I had my routine HIV test at 9 days (of course too soon for the most recent event) and then again at my STD screening due to 3/25 intercourse (neg for all) at 22 days, again, HIV came back negative. I am a bit anxious about the whole thing because I have never had the chafing and the whole condom not coming off with me thing, I am always very careful but this frightened me. Anyone have similar experience they'd like to discuss?
The point of my post is to express anxiety and to discuss with other people my situation to see if they have experienced the same thing. I don't need a lesson on how to use a rubber. You can be as careful as possible, and accidents happen. If you failed to read other post, I have not been placed at risk for years, probably meaning I am aware of how to use lube and a rubber, thanks for your pointless comment.
As myself and Teak have told you, you will not become infected from loosing your condom upon withdrawl. You had protected sex and that means NO RISK.
Learn how to use a condom correctly and you won't have those fears. You always hold on to the condom at the base of your penis when withdrawing. You weren't at risk from losing your condom on withdraw.
In detail the issue was this, I checked mid way through intercourse to ensure it was still on and it was there. I continued on, I began to think that everything was "feeling too good" but knew I just checked to see if the condom was still there. Once I was done and I pulled out, the condom wasn't on me. I was sort of in a state of shock, the guy went to clean off. I asked if he had the condom and he said yes... but I didn't ask anything else at the time. It wasn't until later he said he tested negative in January and that the condom was at the edge of his anus, that it just didn't come off with me. I remember after intercourse prior to showering checking myself for any "residue" at all, blood or other, and there was nothing there... it's just that I am always very conginzant of my actions since I'm a gay male and haven't been placed at risk in years... accidents happen, but it sure isn't worth the weeks of anxiety!!! I'm just hoping the guy was honest, it isn't like he would have a reason to lie I guess, he made the effort to contact me back to discuss it with me as I needed to assure him that I posed no risk to him at all... thanks for responding Joe C!
As long as you used protection, there is no risk involved at all. If your condom broke you would know it. It would resemble a hula skirt.
Your chaffing changes nothing about your incident.
I have never heard of someone returning a positive result after a brief condon break, and also your risk is pretty much zero if you are saying the condom slipped off upon withdrawl.
I see nothing to worry about here, but please further explain if you continued after the condom problem or not so we can better answeryour questions.
Your chaffing changes nothing about your incident.
I have never heard of someone returning a positive result after a brief condon break, and also your risk is pretty much zero if you are saying the condom slipped off upon withdrawl.
I see nothing to worry about here, but please further explain if you continued after the condom problem or not so we can better answeryour questions.
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