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Penetration with blood
Hi, I have been trying for a long time to overcome my fears of HIV. When I felt ready, I met someone through an app. I 'm gay. I put the condom on that person, I'm not sure if I put it on correctly. I put the condom on his glans and slid it down. I applied water-based lubricant. He tried to penetrate but I stopped him because it hurt so much. However, part of his penis entered. Then I stopped him and took off the condom and checked it. There were no holes or tears. There was no sex involved anyway, he just tried to penetrate. As a result, he wanted me to be a top. I penetrated with the same wearing method of a condom and checking it many times, and had anal sex in the top position. When I checked the condom afterwards, there was no hole or tear. I also tested both condoms with water and there was no leakage. When sex ended, I realized that my anus was bleeding. There was dried blood around the anus. I'm so scared, what if I put the condom on wrong? I'm pretty sure the condom was still on his penis when he tried to penetrate. But how can I know if I put the condom on his penis correctly? Do you think I should go and get PEP right away? I am very worried, please help.
Thank you very much for your answers... I just have one more question. I wore a condom when I was in top position, but sometimes the condom would slide upwards, it felt loose. The condom never came off completely, it was always on my penis. Just because my penis was not fully erect, it would sometimes become loose and slide up, but I constantly checked it. Still, I'm worried if there might be contact when it slides up... As I said, the condom was always on my penis.
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Only the head needs protection so you had zero risk due to the condom being on all the time. If the condom slipped off the head of your penis it would have fallen off.
If a condom fails it rips big down the seam so your visual testing is a waste of time.
Otherwise, you got all the advice that you need about condoms before. Move on.
Otherwise, you got all the advice that you need about condoms before. Move on.
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I put the condom on him. And I took the condom off his penis again. So the condom wasn't damaged, I'm sure. I was just afraid of bleeding. And he fingered me... I'm just trying to heal, overcome my fears, and practice safe sex. But I assume I put the condom on correctly because it was there, without any problems.
Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air (blood on condom, maybe cut, etc. ) . You will be happy to learn that you had no risk, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal with a penis, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv - there are ONLY 3 ways to get hiv. Note that 2 of them require a penis and the third requires a hollow injecting shared needle - there are no OTHER ways to get hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
Hiv is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the WORST that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you ANSWER "No, there wasn't a penis in an anus or vagina and I wasn't injected" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either. You can do what you did any time and be safe from hiv.
The other person's status is irrelevant when you have no exposure to live virus.
If you still have questions about your risk, after reading all of the above, then it is because you didn't answer the QUESTION above.
Hiv is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the WORST that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you ANSWER "No, there wasn't a penis in an anus or vagina and I wasn't injected" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either. You can do what you did any time and be safe from hiv.
The other person's status is irrelevant when you have no exposure to live virus.
If you still have questions about your risk, after reading all of the above, then it is because you didn't answer the QUESTION above.
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