2 year old acting out sexual movements

[Adens_Mommy]

Hello I am a mother to a wonderful two year old.. but concerened about some of his behavior. He sleeps in the bed with me and his father and has woke up during us having sex but we stop the min he wakes up. Recently he has been humping things such as when I lay him down to change his diaper and he even makes the nosies. This is so embarrassing to me and I dont know what to think or do. Also he lays down in the bath tub and does the same thing. Please Help!!! Is there anyway this could be sexual abuse.... This does not come to my mind because he is not in daycare, and is only kept two days a week by my mother and his other grandmother

[ranae93]

What you should do is put your son his own bed at least while you're having sex, or move to another part of the house. He's only two. If you ignore it and if he doesnt see you having sex again this behavior it will go away.

[allmymarbles]

His behavior is mimicry and not sexual. What seems odd is that you would have sex with your husband while your son is in bed with you. You can either put your son in his own bed in his own room, or not have sex in his presence.

[istruggle]

I was a daycare worker, and also a young Mom and Wife back in the day, believe me I know about trial and error! It's fine to co-sleep with your baby (a two-year-old is STILL a baby!), it provides a sense of security. As far as hanky-panky with him in the bed? Well, you have seen what the POSSIBLE effects of that could be, but in my opinion, kids puppy-hump and do LOTS of 'inappropriate' things as they discover their bodies, and the world, regardless of what they may or may not have seen. That being said, I know how non-spontaneous this sounds, but you guys need PRIVACY, which means you gotta do it on the sly, IN PRIVATE, for your own peace of mind as well as respect for not exposing him to anything he really doesn't need to see. No, you HAVEN'T 'warped' your kid, but there is a difference between having sex in the same room as a sleeping INFANT, vs a sleeping TODDLER. Tods always want to know what's up. It's their job to observe, your'e a good Mom, I don't think you want him observing THAT! Besides, sex is so much better when you do have privacy, over the desperately trying to be silent thing! Just do it in the living room after he goes to bed, then drag your blissed-out selves to the bedroom and pass out. As far as sacrifices go, this is one of the easy ones! I also think that it would be MUCH more inappropriate to have him sleep all the way on the other side of the house, you would never get any sleep, worrying about keeping him safe! The fact that your even asking about this means your'e not some brain-dead selfish 'mother' that thinks she doesn't have to make any adjustments to her lifestyle now that she has a baby, this was a concern, and you've addressed it. Your doing JUST FINE!

[Adens_Mommy]

His room is on the other end of the house... there is NO way i am moving him straight from our bed to the other end of the house that is insane! If he woke up in there he would panic, He was just 2 in Jan. He is very attached to me and if we have sex in the middle of the night there is no way he knows what is going on.

[RockRose]

The other side of the room isn't enough  if you're going to continue to have sex in that room.  You can certainly have him in there to sleep if you have sex somewhere else,  and all you do in the room with him is sleep.

He's already seen you having sex and he's mimicking it - moving him a few feet away will not help.  

Really,  this is very inappropriate.  

[Adens_Mommy]

Thanks for everything! We bought him a bed and have it on the other side of the room, last night it took three times to get him to lay in it but he slept there for half the night. I guess it will get better every night. This is my first child and my and his daddy are young so we r learning from trial and error =)

[specialmom]

Yes, it is time to move him out of your bed and room.  I don't think he has been sexually abused but I think he has been sexualized by being in bed with two adults having sex.  Kids do find themselves touching as they learn the sensation feels good . . .  but acting out sex and making the noises at 2 . . .  sounds like he wasn't asleep on some of those occasions you thought he was.  He'll forget, ignore it, get him out of your room pronto.  Just my opinion.  good luck

[margypops]

you.......

[margypops]

It is normal but I still think he has seen uou ,so it is time to put him into his own bed or have sex somewhere else ...

[RockRose]

I hope you've stopped having sex while your child is in the bed with you.  Honestly,  you have no idea what he's seen and heard while you think he's asleep.

I think this humpy behavior is fairly normal,  even in children who haven't been in bed with their parents while sex was going on.

But really,  this is inappropriate.    Sometimes it happens that kids quietly get out of bed and creep quietly into the room,  and you can't really prevent that all the time but to purposely have sex while your child is laying right there is inappropriate.

[narla]

Why is he sleeping in the bed with you?Is there a reason,personally I'd put him in his own room and his own bed.As for whether he has been sexually abused you'd need him to be seen by a professional,they are better at reading childrens behaviour.Good Luck  

Denise