A fine line between love and hate????

[motherofsons]

What does that mean??? I've been mulling that one over while cleaning the house for 24 hours now.  Someone said it recently.  I have heard that all my life.  I never understood that one.

[allmymarbles]

Yes, strong emotions and also dependence. Some people grow to need the hatred as they need the love. In "The Scarlet Letter" by Nathaniel Hawthorne, A cuckolded husband develops an enormous hatred for the man who seduced his wife. When the seducer dies years later, the husband is bereft.

[teko]

Love and Hate are the same thing....passionate emotions....one is healthy-one is destructive.


For example: you love your mate more than life itself. You are one and live this way for 30 years just to find out,after sacrificing everything you had, giving him children, putting him thru school so he could experience his dream and you find out  he cheated on you. That feeling that his actions bring about by doing this cause you to in that moment hate him for hurting you, can you ever recover the love you once had? Maybe and maybe not, these two emotions will war with each other until one wins out. Two sides of the same coin so to speak

[Dalubaba]

This is an interesting subject. It covers relationships, communication, philosopy and many subjects where our happiness is concerned.
Some philosopher/teacher has said "Never make freindship so close that he can become your strongest enemy.(he knows all your secrets and weak points to b become unbeatable enemy) Similarly he says never become such a strong enemy that you could never become friend. In other words Keep a balance. If we think deeper we will find that this is true for even for religion.If you become too much religious, you become fanatic. So in religion also you have to choose a middle path. with children, we keep high expectation. If they overshoot our expectations, they are likely to neglect us and if they under perform, they are like to be parasites on us. So If we we love too much, we pamper and spoil them and if do not love enough ,then also we starve them of love and make them mentally dull.So here also you have to be in the middle. So not too much and too less- a middle path.  I think probably we are  all trying to learn to reach to middle path.If we are In the middle path we will take happiness and unhappiness in our natural stride and be joyful in all situation.

[margypops]

I have always thought that it meant that hating is as passionate as loving that we can love with all our being and hate with all our being , having said that I am not certain I have ever hated that much ,yes maybe a I have ..at someone who did something to my child ..and even after their  death that feeling is still there .

[narla]

It is so true.I have been married to my husband for 30 years and I love him with all my heart,but in that 30 years there have been times where I have hated him,"not often"LOL It could be as simple as an off the cuff remark,I remember once I'd gone to the doctor and she wanted me to be checked at the hospital,I came home told hubby "who was engrossed in a video game at the time" LOL,his reaction "that's effing great"poor baby had to leave his game,at that moment in time I hated him.That's the thin line.

The upside to this,I'll never let him forget it  LOL