Controlling bipolar husband

Question

My bipolar husband has become extremely controlling.  I read others' posts and it's like he's being described to a T, so I guess I'm not alone.  He monitors everything I do, keeps me awake at night, won't let me exercise because I'm trying to "look good for someone else", repeatedly goes through our caller ID, hacks into my email, thinks I deserve no privacy, and recently has started restraining me (blocks the doorway and won't let me leave, has pinned my arms down and bullied me).  The one thing that I haven't found in common with other posts is that my husband is actually taking his medications, and going to therapy & group.  I don't know if this is just him being a jerk, or if his meds need to be adjusted, or if it's a symptom that is just part of the illness.  He was diagnosed about 9 months ago after a severe psychotic episode requiring a hospitalization.  I'm to the point where I really don't know what to do.  We have young children.  Is there any hope for my marriage?  I just don't know how I can continue to raise children with someone like this.  If he continues this bully/abusive behavior, I know I can't.  But I honestly don't know how I would go about leaving him.  He has told me he would stalk me.  Any input would be greatly appreciated - I feel like I can't think straight anymore!

allmymarbles · Answer

You must be feeling very badly for your husband and no doubt feel obligated to help and support him. But, so far as I know, although there is medication for mental illness, there is no cure. So you cannot expect to have a normal life with him. What is concerning is his mounting aggression.

ScandiSkadi · Answer

I know you're right, but I guess I want to hold onto some small thread of hope that he will become more stable with time.  It's just frustrating with this bipolar diagnosis, like most mental illnesses, that there are no clear-cut answers about anything.  
BTW, I am not a male like my profile says - don't know how to change it!

allmymarbles · Answer

Sounds like he could become dangerous. And he has already had at least one psychotic episode.

Consider your safety and the safety of your children, and do whatever you have to do to protect yourselves. If that means leaving with no forwarding address, then so be it.