Real problem or am i just overreacting?

[SandraCB]

I m 23 years old, been with my bf for almost 2 years. I met him during summer 2009 on holiday and we clicked right away. In fact, i left my family and my home country to go live with him 2 months after meeting him because he said he couldn't do the whole long-distance relationship thing, that it wouldn't work and well, i didn't want to lose him and also thought it d be great to move to another country, given the opportunity to study abroad or get a job, and get some independance it seemed (i lived with my parents at home) so i moved in with him. He lived in a tiny appartment that he owned, so not much room for one person, let alone 2 but we made it work in the beginning. Also, before moving, i had told him that i didnt have much money and that i didn't know how long it would take me to get a job, he said it didnt matter, that he wanted me to move in anyway, that he would pay and i could just help out later. Anyway, the real issue or most important one is, for a long time now, cant really figure out when exactly it started but he has been kind of forcing himself on me. for example, this morning, he started touching me and "humping" me (dont know how else to put it) while i was sleeping so that i woke up. I knew that he wanted sex but i told him no, i m not in the mood, coz i was really tired coz i had been up late doing some schoolwork (i started at university in autumn 2010) and wasnt feeling well coz i m really stressed coz of my studies just now... i told him to leave my pants on but its like he isnt really listening, so he just took them off anyway, and there i was completely naked. He is quite strong, like he can hold me down with just one hand so i cant really push him away, and the times before when i have actually pushed him away or yelled no, he gets really grumpy if not angry and pushes me off the bed or tells me to go away, or just doesnt say anything for the whole day...
but anyway, this morning and other times, i dont wanna say that i just give in, but its like what i say he doesnt hear or it doesnt matter, so i just stop protesting and i let him take me... sometimes it hurts, since my body isnt really ready, but he just keeps on anyway, and sometimes he asked if i m ok and even if i say no, he keeps on....
so i dont really have much desire anymore and i dont know what to do, i mean he is my bf so i should want him too but i just dont anymore...
Sorry for writing such a long message, it has just been going for so long that i m confused and dont really know how to explain it...

[margypops]

Whilst I don't agree about you waiting, if thats what has to happen , make sure he knows he cannot behave like that ,you may have to sleep in another room.Do Not demean yourself...as soon as is possible... leave.he will not change and he is wrong ...there are shelters out there for woman to go to have you considered that .?

[SandraCB]

have told him several times already, tried talking about it, but he says that if he doesnt "push" me then we ll never have sex because i never come to him and i never want to. According to him, if he has to wait for a sign from me, for my approval or permission or however i should say, he is just gonna be over frustrated and will end up looking somewhere else...
I have tried looking for a place of my own but its just really hard to find something i can afford, i dont have a sufficient income (only aid coz i m a student) to live on my own, he knows it and remind me all the time that he pays for everything and that i owe him, so that makes me feel very guilty as well, since i know i wouldnt be able to study here if it wasnt for me letting me stay for free at his place...
I cant go home now coz this is my last year at university, only have a couple of months left, my parents know (without knowing the details) that it isnt going very well between me and my bf, but they want me to finish my studies, since otherwise it would be "a waste of time and money" they say, so they tell me to suck it up, to finish my studies and then try to find a job that pays enough for me to move out...

[margypops]

There is only one thing I can suggest is that you tell him how you feel that you dont like that behavior , no woman should be forced to have sex she doesn't want .,you say no and thats enough .If he is beligerant and argues then there is only one other way ..you leave .you find yourself a place of your own and you work.Or go home back to your family Good luck.. if he wont listen, he wont change and is that really the life you want to live ? .