Is this considered abuse?

[SouthernHere]

Hello. I have thought about this a long time, never told anyone, as I am not sure if this constitutes abuse or not.
I am a female on my thirties now.
When I was about 9 or 10 years old, one night I was watching TV with my dad at my parent`s bedroom, just the two of us.
I don`t remember whether I was shirtless or just with my t-shirt held up, but I remember him touching my chest  (not developed  still) and nipples in circles, slowly all the way around my nipples.
In one point my mother showed and was about to enter the room, and he stopped.
I hate to say this, but I also remember I kinda liked enjoyed him doing that. I`m sorry.
I do not remember him going to my genital area.
Does this still constitute sexual abuse, or not?
Thank you for reading this. I have never told anyone about this.

[AnnieBrooke]

I wouldn't trust him around my daughter.  "Abuse" often describes something traumatic, but this was morally and sexually wrong even if you didn't feel it as painful or frightening.  You were a child who didn't know anything, he was an adult who definitely knew what he was doing was wrong, it was up to him not to do what was wrong.  He crossed one line by touching a child sexually and also crossed another by doing this to his own child.  In short, he violated the law, the incest taboo, and the rules of normal sexual behavior for adults. If you have no other memories of sexual things he did, it sounds like he managed to control himself.  But I would never trust him with a child.

[Ellameno]

Every adult male should know that you do not do that to a nine year old girl. It was abuse. I am so sorry. I am glad you are in therapy now.

[RockRose]

Hm.  It's concerning that he did stop when your mother was about to enter the room.  So he did feel like it was not something your mother should see.  

But it does sound like you had a much more casual family than most people have.  You don't remember if you were "shirtless" at the age of 9 or 10 - and that would be an unusual condition for most girls.  Most would know for sure they were wearing a shirt - so was partial nudity normal for your family?  

I'm curious why at this age you want to know if this constitutes sexual abuse?  Is there a specific reason you need this information?

[SouthernHere]

I remember my chest was exposed, either for being shirtless or with the shirt up  because he did that. It wasn`t a common occurance being shirtless, but I don`t live in the States, I live in South America and when I was a kid, ( not these times and age) with the heat and being indoors, was not that uncommon. I was asked by a therapist if I was abused. I had buried that incident in my memory and years after I recalled. The house whe lived in at that time, by parent`s bedroom, the incident, etc.

[lormeuy]

Since he stopped when your mother came in, he was obviously aware that what he did was wrong. Thus, he did this in a sexual way. So yea, it's abuse