how do i get over an emotionally and physically abusive relationship??

[kaylarenee632]

i just recently got out of an emotionally and physically abusive relationship. i know i made a mistake and i cant go back in time. i am not 6 months pregnant with this mans baby.  i have a restraining order on him. he has broke it several times, we have been to court several times... my question is, how do i get over this. after everything that he has put me through i still love him. im not talking to him. im tryin to ignore him and it is very hard being pregnant with his child. i am 21 years old and this is my first and its hard knowing that he cant be around anymore bc not only is he bad for me but for our unborn son as well. how do i get over him. i should hate him!!!! i know he will never change bc he has said time and time again that he will and he has told me over and over how much he loves me but nothing ever changes... how do i let go. how do i stop loving him. and i cant stop thinking about him being with someone else and i should not care!!! any advice???

[margypops]

It takes time and acceptance that this relationship wasnt working and would never work If you think about your child you will see that a child brought up with a lot of abuse in its life isnt going to be too happy ,you have to think of the child aswell as your self. You stay away from him, he will not change they never do, unless they really want to and get help with some therapy/counseling. When you feel upset and missing him visualise what it would be like and how your child would suffer that is important ,you are protecting your child.

[jo929]

Just think how he treated you and you will soon be thankul you got out move on with your life he is worhless   luck  jo