how is it possible ???

[MakaylaMommyy]

How is it possible to fall back in love with someone that doesn't help you always talk bad about you & cheat on you while you pregnant im 28 wks pregnant . . & I feel lik my 2 kids was a mistake especially cuz they have a father lik him who only give a fck bout who he wanna give a fck bout . . I love my daughters til the death of me I jus wish I could hav choose a better father . He mak me feel lik I aint **** how can I still love him thru all this ?????

[Jinx_777]

LEAVE   you know NOW that he is no good, move on.  do not ever hold anything against your kids for him being their father. you are the one who chose him, not them.  when you know better, you do better.  just chalk it up to a lesson learned.  it is better to be alone than it is to stay with an abuser.  I went through that and my only regret is that I didn't do it sooner.  I wasted 10 yrs of my life that I will NEVER get back on him.  for what???  he was never going to change.  why should he because I was  allowing it??  
If he is physically abusive and controlling be very careful when you decide to leave.  it is best if you plan it (save money, secretly find a safe place to go, etc) without letting him know.  they lose their minds when they find out they are losing control.  

[kayyjii]

Im in the exact same situation except mine bd swears i sleep with his/family i know his family but i have never met his friends i dont really care to either hes always calling ne a **** and a hoe im 30 weeks prego with out third daughter and i work he doesnt he takes all my money i feel like i have no way out when i want to leave then when i find a way i always stay because i love him and dont see myself with out him hes a great father but i cant take the abuse its emotionally tearing me down little by little its been physical before but not anymore i guess since he stopped the physical i know he can change and stop the emotional i just dont know if i can hold on anymore im tired

[Nighthawk61]

You know that this man is a waste of your time, but what you may not know right now living in the moment, is that by staying with him, you are setting up your daughters to live with the exact same type of man.

This may be the only type of man you've been with, it may be that your father treated women negatively, and that's why you chose a man like that to start a family with. I thoroughly agree with Rock Rose here. I think you need to talk to a therapist and find out why you have stayed with a man like this. Many times it has to do with finances. But a man like this will not support you to finding your best career or your best life. You're far better off without him, and I'd wager a guess that you qualify for a battered women's shelter. Verbal abuse qualifies. Emotional abuse (cheating) qualifies.

Please, take the time to make some friends, find some mentors., Start thinking about your education and career goals. You DO NOT need to stick these girls with this dud of a dad, you can find them a perfectly good step dad, IF YOU WORK ON YOURSELF> We are all worth the effort. Please stop buying into this guy's opinion of you and create yourself from within. Talk you privately. God Bless. Liz

[specialmom]

It sounds like you know he's no good for you.  And that he's no good for you means he's not a great dad.  He doesn't put family first.  I'm not sure I could encourage you to try to still love this person.  good luck

[RockRose]

Makayla,  that's a question only you can answer.

What need does he fill in you?  Who taught you that you aren't worth anything?  You may not be able to uncover why you are choosing to be with him without counseling.

[allmymarbles]

You say "love," but maybe it is "need" or "dependence."