is it abuse or not?

[women40]

Hello to everybody.
I am new here and I need help. I posted my question here:
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Divorce--Breakups/How-to-escape/show/1246863  ;
Please if somebody has any experience or knowledge about what is going on in my life  please give me advice where to start!!
Thank you.

[Leah71187]

This is definitely abuse. go to www.ask.com and search for shelters for abused women in your area. there is mostely likely one somewhere near you. they will give you shelter for you and your child, as well as help you escape your husband. these shelters are completely discrete and you husband will most likely never know you're there. i suggest www.ask.com because you can set the setting to clear your search once you are done that way he cant find you. the law is on your side especially because you are the mother. 9 times out of 10, the mother is granted sole custody of the child unless the husband can prove that you are not a fit parent. get out as soon as you can. good luck honey. im praying for you.

[margypops]

I read the details and mammo's response and I agreee with what she has told you...I also agree with Dazon the best you can do for your future and importantly your childs, is to leave ...however you can ..life is a risk... time to  be free and happy ...let us know how you decide your future ....

[Dazon50]

I think you received some excellent suggestions from Mammo in your other post.  I will affirm what she has already suggested and you that you have rights and choices, no matter how someone else may try to belittle you and stomp on your confidence and self-image.

It is your choice as to the when and how and who you go and talk with to ask these questions.  Looking in a telephone book at a discreet time whether at home or at a library, etc....you will find some help if you go for it.  

There are others who have had to make a similar choice and although it wasn't easy, the hardest part was the beginning....making that choice to end the marriage more from an idealistic background that said they should never get divorced but they found it was the best because it set them and their children free once it was done.  Your husband is making a choice to ignore his medications which in turn leaves him without that additional help in controlling what is going on inside.  If he cannot listen to reason, that leaves you at his mercy.  If being at his mercy means your body and mind are not your own, that is like slavery when the demands and toll are abusive and you have no choices.

I wish you the best in taking those steps to set you and your child free and find happiness.