is there any way to start over

[lost13]

Is there any way to break the curse!14 years with an verbal abusive husband divorced him and now 4 years into another one!why do I do this to myself!

[margypops]

Possibly you have to stand up to the Abuser if it is going to work at all ,or get out again, when he is being abusive walk away from it, tell him you dont like his behavior and you will not accept it.Do not argue or get into any abusive behavior .Sometimes they do it because they can, if he has feelings for you and is willing to change he will adjust his beavior. Talk to him and tell him the things you dont like and get a perspective on it.  

[lost13]

Thank you!you are right!I am  going to read the book!My childhood was not good as my life never seems to be I just want to be happy for once!
  

[RockRose]

That's really insightful, your last sentence.  I think few women actually reach that pinacle of understanding - most just say what is it about me that attracts losers.  What is it about you that's attracted to losers is such a great question - and you're half way there to the answer once you've even asked the question.

I think a good start is a book called "Bad Childhood Good Life" by Dr. Laura Schlessinger.  All her books are quick reads - doesn't get all bogged down.  

Best wishes.