what to do next?

[inneedofhelp82]

I have just went through trauma therapy for rape which happened last year, anyway i found it very hard and it hasn't made much difference at all now my therapist is recommending that i go for a different type of therapy as he thinks that past issues of sexual abuse are holding me back but i really don't want to go there i have avoided it for years and i have no wish to talk about it. I feel rejected by my therapist i put so much trust in him and i feel let down. He won't finish the trauma therapy as he said there is no point as it made me worse and then i attempted suicide again, that was a few weeks ago and i still don't feel any better i am returning to that point again and i don't know how to cope with it, i used to be able to call my therapist but i don't feel i can do that anymore. Has anyone else felt like this and has anything worked do i really need to go back for a different therapy or is it possible to do this on my own?

[inneedofhelp82]

I seem to have been waiting so long to feel better and it just gets worse, i am upset at my therapist but he said what he is doing is for the best he said he doesn't specialize in the help i need, so  i can see his point also i have been really suicidal and i think it does scare him. I have a social worker who my therapist got for me for extra support, i call her when it gets really bad and the option of hospital is there if i feel i can't cope, but i know i won't go there. Time is supposed to heal but i have no patientence i feel my life is on hold because of someone else and to make it worse the police still haven't found the person so i have to live with knowing that they are still around somewhere. Thanks for responding

[inneedofhelp82]

my therapist was there at the beginning but i know how you feel, i also feel very alone and when you have to carry all that stuff around it makes it worse, i hope that when you do get the therapy that it helps. Have you anyone else to talk to? Keeping it all in doesn't help believe me i know. I wish you the best of luck

[bcbudqueen420]

Keep with it, don't ever resort to pills whatever you do. I'm sorry the guy you put trust and hope in let you down, sometimes people get scared because they have people that really challenge them and they fear they cannot help. Time heals all wounds though, and that is why suicide is so very edgy since when you are depressed, time is not something you have patience for. I feel you.

[Coromandel1980]

i'm in therapy for a rape that occured less than two months ago.  i'm still struggling to find a therapist that can schedule me better, it took me three weeks after the assault to even get an appointment and now i have to wait two weeks inbetween for a 50min. session.  it's very frustrating and i feel very alone.  i can sympathize.

[margypops]

Therapy is good I think you have to get to a point where you accept what happened to you, tell yourself that you cant change what happened but you are not going to let it control your life,it is indeed a big trauma, and takes time to get past it, sometimes it is our thoughts that make us feel bad, so when you find yourself thinking about any negaitive thought distract yourself switch the thoughts to other things, get busy take your kids out ,anything, the more you dwell on it the more it will become ...what happened was horrible now its time to get tough and make life work again Good Luck

[inneedofhelp82]

I hope i find a good therapist too the one i have is great but he works in the here and now and he said i need someone else, i find it so hard to think of leaving him when i feel i can trust him totally but i guess thats the way it goes. Thanks

[narla]

It took me 3 therapists before I found the one that worked for me,I also believe you will have to deal with the past abuse to make progress,It's not easy but with the right therapist you can do it,I'm 48 and have only just been able to deal with childhood sexual abuse and let it go.Good Luck I hope you find a therapist that's right for you

Denise