Aa
DOnt know what to think
WE recently received a letter from my husbands brother who said that when they were children he remembered a day that the 2 of them sat in a bedroom stroking each other.
The brother has not made mention of this before & came at my husband in a very angry way in the latter.
From what I can see the boys were about 4 & 7 at that time...now both of them in their 40's.
seeing that this is almost 40 years ago that this happened, I am so confused on what to say, think or do.
From what I can tell there was no force when this happened.
Is this normal behavior at that age & should I be concerned now?
The brother has not made mention of this before & came at my husband in a very angry way in the latter.
From what I can see the boys were about 4 & 7 at that time...now both of them in their 40's.
seeing that this is almost 40 years ago that this happened, I am so confused on what to say, think or do.
From what I can tell there was no force when this happened.
Is this normal behavior at that age & should I be concerned now?
Dear alarmedmom please don't allow this to affect your life now, as the doctor said there is nothing alarming in that it is a normal part of growing up. My brother did the same type of thing due to the horrific family life we were living.I was the younger sibling. My sister made a big stink and sent a letter to my eldest brother's armed forces office. So apparently it happened as well to her. But you have to ask yourself, why after 40 years would a person send a letter like that? did they talk to a counselor about it , find out it was normal, and still send a letter? This says a lot more about your brother in law than your husband. Please don't give it another thought, when i found out what my sister did to my eldest brother, sending it to his work i was horrified. Please don't give it another thought. God bless you and your family.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hi!
It is a normal part of growing up and finding your own sexual identity. Most siblings unknowingly touch each other in an absent exploration. Very rarely they take it as far as stroking each other. Anyways, it happened years ago, and probably your husband wouldn't have remembered it if it was not thrown upon him. Just let this go, be supportive of your husband, and not this old incident spoil your life. This shouldn't be something to worry upon unless you both give importance to it which is not what should be done. Take care!
It is a normal part of growing up and finding your own sexual identity. Most siblings unknowingly touch each other in an absent exploration. Very rarely they take it as far as stroking each other. Anyways, it happened years ago, and probably your husband wouldn't have remembered it if it was not thrown upon him. Just let this go, be supportive of your husband, and not this old incident spoil your life. This shouldn't be something to worry upon unless you both give importance to it which is not what should be done. Take care!
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