Being Rude

[lady67]

I am sure this is going to get moved, but I am going to post anyway and hope triedeverymed sees it first.  I have discovered in my life that people tend to be rude and hateful to the people who offer the least resistance. I am very non-confrontational and I am the one who gets jumped on at work more than anyone.  I have seen that on this forum as well.  The nicer you are, it seems some of the "rude" posters come after you for absolutely no reason because they think you will sit back and take it.  I am learning daily to stand up for myself.  Before I would just let them get their jollies by walking all over me, because I didn't want to raise any flags about myself.  Especially since I didn't want anyone knowing my addiction secret.  The stronger I get though, the thicker skinned I get.  People on here shouldn't be rude.  I remember the old saying, "people who live in glass houses should not throw stones."

Don't worry girl, we have your back.  Most of us are friends here and friends stick together. :)

Love Ya,
Susan

[Mangee]

You cannot sit back and allow anyone, regardless of who they are, to push you aaround. I know it is difficult at times but if you want your life to have any meaning you have to push back. You will find that most bullies select their victims by how they react to abuse of any sort. Most bullies will back off if you stand your ground because most bullies have a yellow stripe running down their backs. If you stand up to them they will show their cowardice and leave you alone. The reason a bully picks on someone they feel is weak is because it gives them a sense of power. I think you will find that abusers of any type cannot stand to be found outb what they really are. If you stand up to them,and I think this works in many cases, they will slink off and look for another victim. I had a boy who used to beat me every day at school and to tell the truth I was terrified of him. I took a girl to a show, went to get pocorn amd when I returned hye was sitting in my seat. He told me to F.O. and for some stranger reason I said no and invited him out to the back lane. I told him I was sick and tired of his beating me up all the time and we may as well settle it once and for all. When the fight started it took about four minutes to see the fear in his eyes. He wasn't expecting this and it tore down his entire world. A few minutes later he ran away and I went back to enjoy the show. He never bothered me again and  he stayed as far away from me as he could. That is the day I learned that you have to stand up to your fears no matter what they are.  I have been beaten many times but I was usually left alone after the confrontations because I refused to back down and they began to look for easier prey. You cannot allow yourself to be subjugated by anyone. Fight back even if you get hurt, it lets them know that the next time might not be as easy.

[Dave2824]

I am in total agreement with several of the points made by addict3.
In any case , you are here and you have a lot of people that are supporting you. - hang in there. And though it is much easier said than done- do not sweat what others say when you feel that they are hurting you. You are  far more important to the community as a whole. Like I mentioned before, you will not be able to please everyone. Its sad that jerks always prey on the kind hearted.
Good luck
Dave2824

[addict3]

Sorry, thought it was a post, wasn't really defending any one, just my observation of my personal feelings when I was in W/D and my typing inabilities to sometimes get my point across the way i mean it.

Sorry you tried to help someone and they treated you badly.

I hope you can blow it off and not let it bother you, it is not worth it in the whole scheme of things....I've seen some of your posts and you really seem to be sincere trying to help others, Please keep it up!

[bobby139]

these are all great points you all have put down here!! And we can only hope that the little minded ppl who enjoy to cause pain to others read this and let it sink in alittle! I am not a rude person at all but i do tend to stick up for myself and specialy for my friends, I always say to let loose lips roll off your back but i have caught myself snapping back and not listening to my own advice lol....Course if i listend to my own advice i wouldnt be a addict......I dont think you should let them walk all over you, times you do need to stick up for yourself without being down right mean like they are,, but usually if you say something they back off and will leave you alone... Just like when u were in school and the bully always said he wanted to fight or whatever, the ones that ran away got it and the one's that stood their ground didn't...just dont get as rude as they are or your lowering yourself to their level...just let them know where the bear ***** in the woods lol.
sorry any of you have had to experiance such nonsense!
hugs
bobby

[triedeverymed]

This wasn't in a post, it was a message sent to me from a "friend" on MedHelp. It was more of a tirade against me after I have tried to help this person for months. It's just as bad having a rude personal message as it is a post I think. It's still as hurtful, if not moreso because you have befriended this person and tried to help them through their problems. There isn't any place for it on MedHelp and I let the person know!

[malenurse57]

I think those who are rude should look into the mirror and remember that the one who looks back @ us is usually the one we dislike the most. Rudeness is unacceptable and uncalled for because admit it or not we all need one another in some way to battle this demon called addiction.
God bless