Not quite sure what you're asking... Co-Dependency or?
Addictive relationships are marked by an inability to break free of an unhealthy attachment to another person. As with substance addiction, a person in an addictive relationship will continue to engage in it in spite of the harmful nature of it. Not necessarily as a co-dependent though. Often both persons in the relationship exhibit addictive behaviors. When an individual withdraws from the relationship they may experience obsessive thoughts about the "other" ( like cravings for a substance), physiological symptoms such as depression and anxiety. They will keep going back (relapse) even though they may suffer from abuse, neglect, or legal problems as a result of the relationship. Does this sound familiar to anyone?
Yes, it sounds very familiar.
hey, i had some issues with this before, i read a few books on co-dependency
one of my na sponsors even went to a recovery retreat for people with co-dependency issues, but the books were free, those retreats are pricy
i do post daily co-depency meditations on the step forum, i try my best to keep them current, they may have some solutions for you
here is the link, and i promise to post more about this topic over there
so far i only have a tiny bit of info.
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Step-forum/co-dependency-meditation/show/1074549
i stayed with my husband even when i was clean and he was using for an entire year because i was afraid of being on my own, i know what you are talking about i think
xo