Aa
Ok, this just made my day!
I just got an email from the woman I was a surrogate mother for. She sent me pictures of her son that I carried for her and her husband. Her sweet email made me smile, a lot. I am so lucky for a lot of things I have in my life. Things I probably take for granted when others have to work so hard for the same things.
But it definitely made my day! Not that you guys haven't done that already :)
But it definitely made my day! Not that you guys haven't done that already :)
Oh my gosh! what a story! I'm so proud to know you. What an awesome thing to do. I can't even think of words to say to you girl. When it comes to giving, noone will ever top that. Incredable!
I knew you were special. That is an amazing, selfless act. I am sure you are here for a reason. You keep us going and I love reading your stories and this one just blew my mind.
(((((jen))))))
luv,
shel
(((((jen))))))
luv,
shel
Hi! I've had a rough day. I just signed on again a little while ago. One minute I'm doing ok, and the next I'm not. I'm feeling a little better right now, but my patience is wearing thin, and I have been praying, literally praying, for God to keep giving me the strength to avoid calling the doc to call in a script. I'm just getting fed up. I haven't been able to play with my son hardly at all, and that really, really bothers me. I have been able to cuddle him, though, which helps. But he doesn't stay still for long. Thank you for checking in on me.
A better question is how are YOU doing?? Almost the end of day six...come on, admit it...you're sitting there saying " Yeah, I'm the man!!" LOL
A better question is how are YOU doing?? Almost the end of day six...come on, admit it...you're sitting there saying " Yeah, I'm the man!!" LOL
Cali,
God put you on this earth for a very good purpose...I've never met anyone else who I could say for sure what their mission in life is. I believe we all have one, and there is a reason for everything, but yours is so clear. You gave life not only to a baby, but to a loving, deserving couple who could not have done it without your help. I cannot wait till my husband gets home to tell him this story. I just can't believe it. There is so much I want to say, but I'm almost to stunned to put it into words!
God put you on this earth for a very good purpose...I've never met anyone else who I could say for sure what their mission in life is. I believe we all have one, and there is a reason for everything, but yours is so clear. You gave life not only to a baby, but to a loving, deserving couple who could not have done it without your help. I cannot wait till my husband gets home to tell him this story. I just can't believe it. There is so much I want to say, but I'm almost to stunned to put it into words!
Thank you so much :) That is one thing in my life I wouldn't take back for a million dollars...
Your story brought tears to my eyes. You are a amazing lady and I am at a loss for words. God Bless you for bringing a beautiful baby into the world to be loved by his parents. What a selfless person you are. I am honored to know you, even though it is in cyberspace. You truly are an angel!!
Hug to ya,
Tim
Hug to ya,
Tim
It was really amazing. It was something I always wanted to do, but figured it was one of those things that would never happen. I researched it and after thinking about it for a long time I contacted an agency in NJ. The founder struggled with infertility herself and had twins that her sister in law carried for her. She is such a wonderful woman. So I did all the paperwork, background stuff, etc. She said it could be anywhere from a month to a year before I am matched with a couple (both sides have to agree on working together). So a few months went by and then I got a call that a couple had picked me from my profile, that they wanted to use me as their surrogate. I was shocked. I mean I knew it would probably happen, but when I received that call I thought, omg, I'm really going to do this!
The couple live in Germany so we emailed back and forth and I immediately fell in love with them. They are the most sincere, giving people you could ever meet. I knew these were the people I wanted to carry a baby for.
I went through months of testing, bloodwork, ultrasounds, even seeing therapists and lawyers (something that is required). I had to have shots every day, be on different medications, etc. But I never minded. This whole time I kept in touch with them and I was just praying it would be a success. I knew that so many times people went through all this to end up not having a successful pregnancy, or at least the first time. I just hoped it would work for them, because they deserved it so much.
The mother had a child from a previous marriage. When she gave birth she had to have an emergency hysterectomy for medical reasons. She explained that it was a partial hysterectomy so she still had her eggs. She was just unable to carry a child. So the baby is completely biologically theirs. To be honest, that is the only way I could do it. There are other surrogates who use their own eggs, but I couldn't. I would feel like I was giving up a part of me. But I deeply respect those who can do it.
I finally flew to NJ for the InVitro. I was finally able to meet the parents. They were even more wonderful in person. She was even in the room when I got pregnant (lol... that is so funny to say). So they implanted three embryos. I thought omg triplets! But the doctor explained that they didn't usually all take, that is why they put in a few. I had to stay in NJ for a few days before I could fly back home.
I had belonged to a surrogacy forum where we all talked about what we were going through and what was happening. So many people had posted that they took pregnancy tests after 6, 7, 8 days and it came up postive. I was so excited to finally take one after 6 days. Negative. 7 days. Negative. 8, 9, 10 days. Negative. I was heartbroken. These sweet people had spent so much time and money and it didn't happen. I felt like I did something wrong. Maybe I didn't take one of the shots on time... maybe I missed a pill and didn't know it.
Then a couple of days later my husband suggested I take another test. Why? Everyone said they had positive results days earlier than when I tested last time. But I did. And I saw a very faint line. Faint but it was there. I spent the next three days taking test after test, each time the line was darker. When I was finally convinced I was pregnant, I called the mother. She was so overjoyed she couldn't even speak.
So the doctor confirmed the pregnancy and I was on my way.
Both my family and my husband's family didn't want me to do it. They thought it would be too hard to give up the baby, and too hard with my children being so young and having to be pregnant while taking care of them. Luckily they finally came around. I know they were just concerned, and I don't blame them.
I had a few problems and scares during the pregnancy, but all in all everything was ok. It was so fun to share all the milestones with them.... finding out the sex of the baby, sending them ultrasound pictures, etc. I never felt as if the baby were mine. I knew he belonged to them.
People were so worried about me having to give him up, but I wasn't. They said I may feel like that at the time, but when he is born everything could change. I knew it wouldn't. As soon as I had him and the doctor handed him to his mother, I knew he was exactly where he belonged. When she kissed him and held him I saw how much she already loved her son.
He is actually only three months old. For you doing the math, yes I was on pills while I was pregnant. My doctor had me on Norco the whole time for migraines, back pain and some of the issues that I had during the pregnancy. Of course I justified it with the fact that it was okay because they were being prescribed to me, but that never justified the fact that I still liked taking them.
After the baby I dove deeper into my pill addiction then ever. Not because I was depressed or upset, just because I finally wansn't pregnant and could take as many as I wanted. It's like going off a diet after being on it so long and just pigging out. That's what I did, only with pills.
So that is my story... and it ends with me being 13 days clean :) (I thought it was 12 but when I recounted it is actually 13 - I tried to steal a day from myself!)
The couple live in Germany so we emailed back and forth and I immediately fell in love with them. They are the most sincere, giving people you could ever meet. I knew these were the people I wanted to carry a baby for.
I went through months of testing, bloodwork, ultrasounds, even seeing therapists and lawyers (something that is required). I had to have shots every day, be on different medications, etc. But I never minded. This whole time I kept in touch with them and I was just praying it would be a success. I knew that so many times people went through all this to end up not having a successful pregnancy, or at least the first time. I just hoped it would work for them, because they deserved it so much.
The mother had a child from a previous marriage. When she gave birth she had to have an emergency hysterectomy for medical reasons. She explained that it was a partial hysterectomy so she still had her eggs. She was just unable to carry a child. So the baby is completely biologically theirs. To be honest, that is the only way I could do it. There are other surrogates who use their own eggs, but I couldn't. I would feel like I was giving up a part of me. But I deeply respect those who can do it.
I finally flew to NJ for the InVitro. I was finally able to meet the parents. They were even more wonderful in person. She was even in the room when I got pregnant (lol... that is so funny to say). So they implanted three embryos. I thought omg triplets! But the doctor explained that they didn't usually all take, that is why they put in a few. I had to stay in NJ for a few days before I could fly back home.
I had belonged to a surrogacy forum where we all talked about what we were going through and what was happening. So many people had posted that they took pregnancy tests after 6, 7, 8 days and it came up postive. I was so excited to finally take one after 6 days. Negative. 7 days. Negative. 8, 9, 10 days. Negative. I was heartbroken. These sweet people had spent so much time and money and it didn't happen. I felt like I did something wrong. Maybe I didn't take one of the shots on time... maybe I missed a pill and didn't know it.
Then a couple of days later my husband suggested I take another test. Why? Everyone said they had positive results days earlier than when I tested last time. But I did. And I saw a very faint line. Faint but it was there. I spent the next three days taking test after test, each time the line was darker. When I was finally convinced I was pregnant, I called the mother. She was so overjoyed she couldn't even speak.
So the doctor confirmed the pregnancy and I was on my way.
Both my family and my husband's family didn't want me to do it. They thought it would be too hard to give up the baby, and too hard with my children being so young and having to be pregnant while taking care of them. Luckily they finally came around. I know they were just concerned, and I don't blame them.
I had a few problems and scares during the pregnancy, but all in all everything was ok. It was so fun to share all the milestones with them.... finding out the sex of the baby, sending them ultrasound pictures, etc. I never felt as if the baby were mine. I knew he belonged to them.
People were so worried about me having to give him up, but I wasn't. They said I may feel like that at the time, but when he is born everything could change. I knew it wouldn't. As soon as I had him and the doctor handed him to his mother, I knew he was exactly where he belonged. When she kissed him and held him I saw how much she already loved her son.
He is actually only three months old. For you doing the math, yes I was on pills while I was pregnant. My doctor had me on Norco the whole time for migraines, back pain and some of the issues that I had during the pregnancy. Of course I justified it with the fact that it was okay because they were being prescribed to me, but that never justified the fact that I still liked taking them.
After the baby I dove deeper into my pill addiction then ever. Not because I was depressed or upset, just because I finally wansn't pregnant and could take as many as I wanted. It's like going off a diet after being on it so long and just pigging out. That's what I did, only with pills.
So that is my story... and it ends with me being 13 days clean :) (I thought it was 12 but when I recounted it is actually 13 - I tried to steal a day from myself!)
Wow, Cali...I agree with Tim. What a selfless thing to do!! Would you mind sharing the whole story? Were the parents people you already knew? What made you do it? Was giving up the baby hard? How old is the baby now? TONS of questions!!! You are truly an amazing person. How awsome it must feel to know that you probably made this couples life complete, worth living. Please share!!
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