Do not dwell on age. What you need is a way to stimulate both him and you, Maybe if you went back to some of the old haunts you used to go to. Dancing, dinner out, a trip. When you walk, hold hands. It only takes a memory to get the juices flowing. Antidepressants may not be the problem. It may all be in your mind. My son was on them for a while and they never slowed him down. As I said, "You havs to start living again and so does he.He my be staying away from intimacy because he loves you and thinks that is what you want. Talk to him,tell him everything you feel. You may be pleasantly surprised.
Such wise words, and I can't thankyou enough for saying that. By being in a dark place is preventing me from letting others in.Who knows,? I may have something they need? Perhaps I could put a smile on someone elses face. It was hard yesterday cause as I come up on the anniversery every year, I put something in the paper in rememberance of my brother. I appointed myself of that. I'm not good at poems, so I googled poems of that sort to get some ideas.
But You are so right. I don't know what to fill the void?? My marriage isn't to fulfilling right now. We are in a slump. He's a wonderful man, but we need to get on the same page. I woulden't trade him for anything, but theres this silent emptiness. (this might be t.m.i. but my antidepressants kill my sex drive, and its been months) And he's fine with it cause he has back problems and is 58. Is it supposed to slow down? In the beginning I thought we'd f--- ourselvs to our grave.Me 53 him 58. I'm going to talk to the doc. Its one of those unspoken things. Well, if I don't say something, who will?
Really, its the intamacy, not the act itself. So, I'm off to the mirror, hug myself and tell me how wonderful I am. Cathy