move or not to move

[jordiepup]

my husband was officially diagnosed just this past May... I have known I think in my mind for the past three years... he is having a tough time accepting this.... his MMI test scores are always low because his anxiety levels go through the roof.... he worries all the time about what will happen to him if something takes me away .. we live in a tiny town and family is 9 hours away.... he wants to move near... should  we do this ... he gets so bored here and says it will be better in a city... I am very sceptical and worried that later he will get lost....

[AndRynne]

So sorry, this must be very difficult for you. The support and help of a family nearby can only be a good thing. It would give you a break too which undoubtedly you will need and deserve. However, at the end of the day, only you can decide.

[jordiepup]

thank you for your answer... and your right at the end of the day it is me who has to decide,  I love it hear and money wise as far as housing goes we are better off ... a huge mortgage is terrifying at my age .. my worries get the best of me... long nights awake thinking of all the possibilities... maybe i think too much and should just do.. thank you...

[ScalpMassager]

Some areas have I.D. bracelets that related to a photo on record with the local police (in case he's found and needs help being brought home).  A GPS gadget (there are watches that have this function and are trackable, now might not be too early to contemplate gifting him with one).  It ought to be reassuring that if he did go missing, there'd be a way to track him down.

If he has high anxiety levels during testing, his (Mini-Mental) MMI scores may be meaningless.  I mean, I suffer from anxiety myself at times and if it's under poor control I'd flunk an MMI test no matter how hard I tried (my parents went through several of those tests, so I'm quite familiar with their content and application).   Perhaps the test(s) ought to be retaken when his anxiety's well under control, even if he needs to be medicated (eg. some serax/oxazepm for that purpose).  

A small town would not have much in resources, perhaps your larger area has:  a daycare center, a seniors assisted living facility, and of course, rest homes for those completely unable to care for themselves (some have specific designs that cope with alzheimers' patients propensity to wander), though I think the latter vary widely in quality and safety.

[jordiepup]

Thank you so much for your comments... drs have tried to use meds before his mmi's... but without much success.... even if i ask him a question he gets  frustrated because i am asking... all a new side... thanks again... it is great to have someone to ask questions who has gone through the same thing... will keep trying and saying my prayers...