I wish I could get my fiance more involved with the baby (we just went and the tec said it was a girl, but I think she may be wrong).
I've been looking at nursery ideas for when the babies room gets built on so I can start looking st paint and things and get estimates, but when I show him things he says "yeah that's ok/I like that" or "wtf you been smoking woman?/no"
I ask him what he thinks and he just laughs and tells me its up to me, that this is my thing and he doesn't really care. I tell him I dont think that's fair because ive never had a baby, and this is our first child together (he has 2 daughters 11&8 by his ex wife).
I've been bugging him too about outfits and the middle name. We had agreed on Lilly, but my cousin (whose been trying for a baby for years) wants a girl named Lilly, so I decided to change it.
My fiance got upset, but when I told him that I would be upset and heartbroken if someone took the name Arya or Lincoln before we had a chance (we had to make a list of our family members name to make sure we didn't have 2 of somethings, then came friends and friends kids and other kids from people we didn't like)
Now he won't look st me and say "I like this name, spelled this way." He just makes passing comments like
'Arya writes better then Aria, but I still like Aria better to look at."
So when I ask him which he wants to use he gets frustrated and says "I don't care, just pick the one you like."
I've told him time and again to be more assertive and tell me what he wants/likes for the baby but he just laughs
Anyone else have a dad like this?