another suggestion, when your husbands at work could you not take Hissie in and have her put down, lie lie lie, tell your husband Hiss had a medical emergency of some sore(?) severe yowling? seizure? projectile vomiting?...whatever. and say when you got him to the Vet there was nothing that could be done for the poor little soul. that way it wasn't your decision....it was a natural death as far as he's concerned. would that work with him?
I hope you are able to soon let Hiss have his peace dear.
I wonder, do you think the other kids would be willing to meet with you and your husband to do an intervention type thing. Help DH to realize that keeping Hissie alive is cruel instead of loving?
You know, my dad did this very thing with our last cat. Just could not face what he was seeing with his own eyes. Friskie should have been put down months before she passed in our back yard.
Sending you loving hugs, honey. I feel so sorry for you and this situation.
Heya;
Those who have read me for awhile may be surprised by this suggestion...
Have you approached your pastor?
Perhaps a gentle word or two from that direction will help.
My thoughts go out to you, Todd and Hissie.
Take care, of you, your son, your husband and the beloved little fur person...Pip
Yes, I agree. If you go behind your husband's back he will never forgive you. Is there a family member, other than yourself, or maybe the Vet who could talk to your husband and convince him it's the best and most humane thing to do....to let Hissie finally go and rest in peace.
Hi Lynn,
I'm so sorry for what you are going through. This is not fair to you or Hissie. Thank you for the advice and I hope everyone reads this because it is definitely a lesson to learn.
(((HUGS)))
When I first met my husband about 6 years ago he had a cat that was in bad shape. He was all matted and had many health problems. He was against putting him down. One day after we talked gently to my husband, he agreed to put the cat down. Looking at photos one day he said to me "I wish I would have put this cat down a long time ago." I am thinking that it was at that minute that he realized just how sick the cat was.
See if you can find a way to talk to him about it without nagging him about the cat. Explain to him that she will be in a better spot once she crosses the rainbow bridge.
Hi hon, this is so heart wrenching and I'm well aware of the situation. I have an idea, but will send it in a PM.
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hi Lynn and welcome back, I do remember you and all of Hissies problems.
I am so sorry for the troubles you are having and all the stress in your life. I do understand what you are saying too....we love our pets and we do all we can for them but there does come a time to say goodbye.
Your husband is being very selfish right now, perhaps this is as much about you and him and not necessarily about Hiss nor for Hissies best interests.
I can understand how you must feel seeing Hissie suffering for this long esp now that things are taking a turn for the worst, your right its not fair to you nor to him to prolong his life, it is exhausting looking after a sick pet while not well yourself, you have yourself and your son to consider too.
Lynn I can't tell you what to do, you know yourself what needs to be done but it is you who will suffer the repercussions which is so unfair.
I hope you can soon come to a resolution for this poor little creature. my heart goes out to you both(you and HIss)...
Please keep letting us know and God bless dear.