Worse after being pushed down/shook by neck

[xmelax35]

I am feeling really bad right now. As some of you know I have gotten a ton worse anyway.  Got a diagnoses of TC and still brain slump but different kind of it. The prev doc cut too much above and not enough below - too narrow. So still my brain is falling down into the canal. If that makes sense...it did when he explained and ddrew me a picture. I can't stay on long I am not focused. Anyway my back, neck, head, and arm hurt badly after I was pushed down and my husband grabbed ahold of my neck and shook me (that happened b4 he pushed me down) and grabbed me by my hair. As he was saying there is nothing wrong with you! (we had an argument that lead to him doing that). So now I feel more off balance than ever and I am all out of focus and can't hardly see to type this.

I know what you are going to say that I need to get out of here. I have no where to go at all and he took my car and the phone and we are stranded here. He took my purse and money too. He is not like this at all. I don't know what got into him. In the 8 years I have been with him (almost 9) he has never done this. So as he was shaking my brain probably further into my canal...I don't know what is happening next. Just scared and if I go to the hospital here they will just send me home after saying" there is nothing wrong with you or we suggest you make an appt with your doctor. Now I have to sleep on the tiny little 2 seater sofa. See I can't even think straight to know what that is called.

Anyway trust me I have been in an abusive relationship &  I left him (it was really bad) and so I know what it is like and what an abusive man is like and so my husband is not abusive but he did have some kind of jerk attack tonight that threw him into this rage of fit.

I am about in tears. My son was not around to see this happen so thank goodness. He is here now but tomorrow morning he will be going to a friend's house.

[niki3350]

Please  if you get the chance could you let us no that you are ok honey!!!

Hope you got checked out by ER and that you are ok.

Praying that things are calmer for you now and that you can resolve any problems that you have.

Thinking of you
Hugs
Niki x x x

[*Stormy*]

Sorry but I have to agree...I was in an abusive relationship once too and it was the one before my husband now. If my husband ever did something like that to me (especially after the surgery we have gone through!!) I would be gone and he knows it! There is no excuse, to have the capacity to do that now means that he will do it again. Trust me I know, I had a relationship where at times he could be the sweetest person there is and then he would switch on a dime with just a really small trigger. I know you have enough stress to deal with but I feel this is putting more danger in your life.

You should definitely get checked out...the neck shaking part especially could have really hurt you.

Please let us know how you are.
Carolyn

[pamk5]

I was a battered wife for 13 years and I know from experience it doesnt stop once it starts.  Of course they are sorry and they promise they will never do it again, once someone puts their hands on you it doesnt end.  He could have killed you from what I understand about this illness and your brain stem being vulnerable to being crushed.  Please dont make excuses for him or his behaviour, there is no excuse.  I dont know the person that I used to be to put up with what I did for so long.  I was very blessed that I wasnt killed.  Go to a shelter, call the police, just dont put up with it.  I agree with eveyone above you should definitely get checked out at the ER.  

Let us know how you are doing!

Pam

[selmaS]

I have to agree with the above posters...no excuse for that kind of behavior...he knew the type of surgery u had and chose to grab u by the neck and  hair....no, get out get help, get seen.

Let him deal with his issues, but u can not remain in a situation like that.....ur neck is weaker than most bcuz of the surgery and remaining issues...

I am sure u feel it is easy for us to tell u what to do, and trust me, no it is not...but I also know u r at risk more so than an average woman,that said I would tell her the same, get out, get help, get seen......make sure there was no additional injury incurred by this.....

"selma"

[Jennyfoo]

Please go to the ER. Get checked out, and file a report about what happened. Your husband may not normally be like that, but once he's snapped like that, what's to stop him from doing it again. You need to file a domestic abuse complaint. He needs to realize that he can't do that to you...to anyone. Please do this for your sake and for his. He obviously needs help. His taking your keys, purse, etc is out of line too. He's holding you hostage. Please call a friend or the police and get to the ER. You need to get checked out, and you need to file a complaint against your hubby now. If your relationship deteriorates, if his violence continues, then you need to have a paperwork trail of his abusive behaviors to help with your custody case. I'm dead serious. I grew up with an abusive father and have watched my baby sister go through an abusive relationship, as well as some friends. You need to protect yourself and your child. Please go to the hospital!

[rod44]

You need help, this could have done damage to your surgery site. your husband needs help but that is his responsibility  right now. You need to look out for you & your health. Your husband is way out of order, no man who calls himself a man would EVER put his hands on a woman. He may be stressed or have a million excuses but none justifies him pushing you.
You need to see a doctor, explain what happened including what happened with your husband (In principle it should  be treated Confidentiality by your doctor if this is your wish) Your  doctor needs to get a full picture of what is going on medically and will need to know the circumstances that have led to your new onset of symptoms.
Your heart pounding could be due to fear but again this needs to be checked.

Remember NO EXCUSES for this behavior.

Have you family or a friend you can call?
Please let us know you are OK.

Ray    

[xmelax35]

p.s. my heart is pounding out of my chest and racing really bad right now too! I just don't feel good at all. Just took a lunesta and I am going to try to sleep seeing as though this little couch is the only thing I can sleep on and I usually awake in pain real bad from the neck not being supported correctly.