support after surgery

[gimlihydeRN]

I have 2-3 family member willing to come to my home and help take care of me and my 3 kids ans home after the surgery. My currant neuro and physical limitations leave me doing the bare minimium to maintain limited to 2 hours on a good day 4 at best  usually will harsh rebound if I do " to much" which is barely enough to keep up with a family of 5.. I so miss work.. now I am lucky to get partial housework done... on the bright side I count my blessing to be with my family.. silver lining.. wish the dust bunnies and laundry would slow up..  sow tire mentally most days

[frankie_rush]

Hello,

Yes I would let them help.  I found a few years ago it is best to have the help then to wear yourselve down and hurt.  Specially since they want to, that shows one thing they care for you and your family.  So don't feel bad, cause we got a saying in the saouth.  They maybe crazy but they are family and family watches each others backs.  Hope everything goes good on surgery and keep us updated.

[selmaS]

  PS- see the tips for hospital stay and coming home in the health pages for more ideas.

[selmaS]

  Since u have young children and demand care u will not be able to do for some time post op, take all the help u can get...start now with freezing meals to help  the help when u have it so they too do not get overwhelmed.....

My DH stayed home the first 2 weeks then when he went to work he would pack a ice chest with things for me to eat all day long....breakfast, and snacks and lunch....

mix it up so one person is not ur go to, as they may break.....it is a lot for them to deal with and keep asking until u know ur body is up to doing more....

[gimlihydeRN]

never asked my question brain fog what length in weeks would you suggest for me to ask my family to help... they are anxious to help and are more than willing have 3-4 family members  willing to stay in shifts  just wanting a generious ballpark.. I have accepted a long time ago to allow others to help not just for me but my children sake.. they would have better quality of life if someone was their to help not just me but them.. any of u pros have suggestions??