1 yr old crying to much

[helpplease402]

i have a 1 yr old and a 3 mth old my old yr old crys all the time for no reason i tried paying him more attention n he cryied cuz he didnty want me there he would poush me away from him i tried just letting him do what he want but he would still crying when i didnt says nothing to him,i tried jus letting him cry and it was like he would never stop, i tried sending him to his room and let him play with his toy or watch tv he wolud not stay in his room any time i touch his sister he would cry and puch her off of me and cry, i go with him when he pulls for me to go and be crying, but when he pull me all the way into his room he would jus push me back out and cry if i didnt and it seem like when i do get him to stop crying my 3 mth old is crying. it driving me made to the point i dont want to be around him because i cant take the cry. what do i do to get it to stop. i thought he was do it because of the new baby but it has not even slowed down and it been 3 mths then i thought it was because i work 8-16 hour a day 5-6 days aw eek but even when i stop working so much to spend time with him it didnt work i dont no what to do and i feel like a bad mother for it. a the thing that bothers me the most is that he only do it with me ooooooonnnnnnnnn body else

[adgal]

My son is 20 months, and he gets upset if I pay even a small amount of attention to someone else's child.  I can only imagine how confusing and difficult it is for them if that new baby comes to live with you, and takes mommies attention.  The other's are right, this is most likely jealousy and him feeling insecure.  Make sure you set aside special time for just you and him.  Let me "help" with the new baby and keep him as involved as possible.  And I do agree...sending him to his room, even if not a punishment, probably does come across to him that way.  Toddlers need lots of patience and love, and infants have a way of taking up all of your time.  This will pass.  Just keep reassuring him and spending lots of time with him.

[margypops]

To him it is a punishment , it will pass and the more you are calm and loving with him and Dad is involved the better. Its very tough on the eldest when a new baby comes along especially when he is still really a baby himself .Be patient , be calm , I think sending him to his room is not a good idea , in fact at this young age you must be putting him in his room, does he not try to come out ?

[helpplease402]

I send him in his room to play with toy or to watch tv its nt a punishment because i dont make him stay in there i tried doing that to try iand get his attention on something else so i can do what i have to do to keep my house takeing care of and i cant do that wwhen he is right behind me all the time crying because i will stop doing what im doing to try and get him to stop crying and yea dad is here everyday all day i try and give him as much attention as i can give him but i give him so much attention i dont really give my new baby any win i try and hold her my 1 yr old tries to pull her off my lap and cries if i tell he to not do that its not nice

[margypops]

Punishments wont work with such a young child , he is upset ,he sees the baby getting more attention , he is still a baby himself , is Dad involved maybe when you have the newest baby he could play with the 1 year old .Give him one to one time ,dont send a 1year old to his room , how is that possible ?

[teddybears4ever2]

Just jealous of the new baby.  He is used to being the one who got all the attention.  Give him time to warm up to the new baby.