My 16 year old is out of control. Everyone on the outside sees a sweet and well behaved child. He is nice to everyone, but his family. He is happy only when he gets his way and then it's only for a short time. He is sometimes mean to his 12 year-old sister, who adores him. I believe it is my fault for pampering him, but now I have created a monster. He yells, hits walls, threatens to run away. I don't know what to do my husband says he gives up because I don't support his punishments. The problem is my husband works nights. Even though he is told not to go out during the week, he doesn't obey me and makes sure he is in before his father comes home. If I try to tell his dad he says I'm a rat and that I start all the trouble. He has no interest in school and is failing some of his subjects. I ask to see homework and schoolwork - he says no most of the time. I can go on and on. I sit and cry most of the time, I don't know where to turn. Can you give me some advise or tell me where to go? I don't believe he is using drugs. His eyes are always clear and he seems alert; but then again, I thought I knew my son. What do I do not to lose this child?