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2-year-old masterbating
Hi,
I have a question pertaining to my 2-year-old and her habit of masterbating. This is so embarrassing for me and my husband.
Ever since she was around a year old (a little younger maybe, too) she has been...uh...how to say this...doing various things in order to feel a certain something *down there*. At first, we noticed she was pushing and rubbing against the thing that goes between the legs on the highchair. She would get herself going (pushing and rubbing) so much that she'd break out in a sweat, breathe heavily, and then at the end look like she was completely tired out (much like we all do after a romp in the hay). It was so embarrasing if we were with any friends or family.
As time went on, she was doing the same thing in her carseat against the part that goes between her legs. We've taken her out of the highchair, but she still finds ways to do this. She'll sit on the steps or on one of the small kid size chairs we have and squeeze her legs together while pointing her toes, and just move her hips up and down until she gets what she wants. Thank goodness she hasn't figured out she can do the same thing with her hands.
I can tell you that she has never been in a situation where anyone has touched her inappropriately. The only babysitters she has ever had are my parents and I know they haven't done anything. Her father and I are just mortified (especially him) and don't know what to do. We've scolded her for it and she just gets mad and screams and then goes back to doing it once we quit watching her. I thought maybe it was a stress reliever for her, but now I'm noticing that she's doing it at any time of the day...stressed or not.
Has anyone here had experience with something like this? I've researched and can't really find info on what to do with a 2 year old. She doesn't exactly understand me saying to only do this in her room when alone (like I've read in other advice given). I don't want to punish her and give her a complex about her sexuality for later when it's appropriate (with her future husband).
What would you do in this situation??? Help! We're even hesitant to put her in the church nursery for fear she might do this there!
I have a question pertaining to my 2-year-old and her habit of masterbating. This is so embarrassing for me and my husband.
Ever since she was around a year old (a little younger maybe, too) she has been...uh...how to say this...doing various things in order to feel a certain something *down there*. At first, we noticed she was pushing and rubbing against the thing that goes between the legs on the highchair. She would get herself going (pushing and rubbing) so much that she'd break out in a sweat, breathe heavily, and then at the end look like she was completely tired out (much like we all do after a romp in the hay). It was so embarrasing if we were with any friends or family.
As time went on, she was doing the same thing in her carseat against the part that goes between her legs. We've taken her out of the highchair, but she still finds ways to do this. She'll sit on the steps or on one of the small kid size chairs we have and squeeze her legs together while pointing her toes, and just move her hips up and down until she gets what she wants. Thank goodness she hasn't figured out she can do the same thing with her hands.
I can tell you that she has never been in a situation where anyone has touched her inappropriately. The only babysitters she has ever had are my parents and I know they haven't done anything. Her father and I are just mortified (especially him) and don't know what to do. We've scolded her for it and she just gets mad and screams and then goes back to doing it once we quit watching her. I thought maybe it was a stress reliever for her, but now I'm noticing that she's doing it at any time of the day...stressed or not.
Has anyone here had experience with something like this? I've researched and can't really find info on what to do with a 2 year old. She doesn't exactly understand me saying to only do this in her room when alone (like I've read in other advice given). I don't want to punish her and give her a complex about her sexuality for later when it's appropriate (with her future husband).
What would you do in this situation??? Help! We're even hesitant to put her in the church nursery for fear she might do this there!
I'm very glad I found this forum as I recently was babysitting my 2.5 yr old brother and saw him rubbing himself. I was a little spooked, but I didn't yell at him or tell him it was wrong. I actually called him over and distracted him with toys and we started playing and coloring.
He did it again a few days later and again, I just offered a distraction. If you yell at them or make them feel that it's "bad", you'll only worsen the situation I think. Keeping them active and engaging on other activities will decrease the times they do this. (Again, my 28yrld, baysitted 4 times, opinion!!)
But yeah, I can understand why they would do it, kids shower and touch themselves, even parents touch kids privates when drying them, etc. It's normal for some stimulation to occur. You just have to be a MATURE adult and handle the situation as one.
1. Don't yell at the child or make him think what he's doing is bad. (When you think or see the child may be masturbating)
2. Immediately distract the child with some activity without mentioning what he or she is doing. (coloring, sports, ball throwing, something that will get them up and moving around.)
3. It works, I swear!
He did it again a few days later and again, I just offered a distraction. If you yell at them or make them feel that it's "bad", you'll only worsen the situation I think. Keeping them active and engaging on other activities will decrease the times they do this. (Again, my 28yrld, baysitted 4 times, opinion!!)
But yeah, I can understand why they would do it, kids shower and touch themselves, even parents touch kids privates when drying them, etc. It's normal for some stimulation to occur. You just have to be a MATURE adult and handle the situation as one.
1. Don't yell at the child or make him think what he's doing is bad. (When you think or see the child may be masturbating)
2. Immediately distract the child with some activity without mentioning what he or she is doing. (coloring, sports, ball throwing, something that will get them up and moving around.)
3. It works, I swear!
you disturb me reading your post,you say your a female in your profile yet you state your a man in your posts..you disgust me,and i hope that other people get on to what you say,i dont know who you are and where your from,but your sick
oi,this is a 2 yr old wer talking about,at that age babies can just put sentences together,your so inappropriate its unbelieveable,i want to say so much more,....but you disgust me
ye know what,looking over your post,it seems like your the one that needs help,this is what medhelp is here for and as much as i hate it,i hope you seek the help you most definitely need...what gives me comfort in the fact that u are on this sight in the first place,so i god dam pray and hope you find the help your looking for
sort your head out love,its disgustin the way you thought of your THREE year old sister,if she is is insecure its no wonder,where is your head at?
hi
i saw my three year old sister masterbate all the time. we just let her do it. finally i said something to her about it. but years later i felt bad that i had been the public masterbation cop.
i felt like maybe i screwed her up by telling her not to do it. She was very innocent. she was wild. she would run around naked and then lay on her belly and move herself up and down on her hands. she was a sophisticated masterbater.
i don't think i did that at her age but she sure did. she was wild and free. later she grew to be very insecure and timid. i wish i would have let her do her thing. it really wasn't a big deal.
i saw my three year old sister masterbate all the time. we just let her do it. finally i said something to her about it. but years later i felt bad that i had been the public masterbation cop.
i felt like maybe i screwed her up by telling her not to do it. She was very innocent. she was wild. she would run around naked and then lay on her belly and move herself up and down on her hands. she was a sophisticated masterbater.
i don't think i did that at her age but she sure did. she was wild and free. later she grew to be very insecure and timid. i wish i would have let her do her thing. it really wasn't a big deal.
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