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2-year-old masterbating
Hi,
I have a question pertaining to my 2-year-old and her habit of masterbating. This is so embarrassing for me and my husband.
Ever since she was around a year old (a little younger maybe, too) she has been...uh...how to say this...doing various things in order to feel a certain something *down there*. At first, we noticed she was pushing and rubbing against the thing that goes between the legs on the highchair. She would get herself going (pushing and rubbing) so much that she'd break out in a sweat, breathe heavily, and then at the end look like she was completely tired out (much like we all do after a romp in the hay). It was so embarrasing if we were with any friends or family.
As time went on, she was doing the same thing in her carseat against the part that goes between her legs. We've taken her out of the highchair, but she still finds ways to do this. She'll sit on the steps or on one of the small kid size chairs we have and squeeze her legs together while pointing her toes, and just move her hips up and down until she gets what she wants. Thank goodness she hasn't figured out she can do the same thing with her hands.
I can tell you that she has never been in a situation where anyone has touched her inappropriately. The only babysitters she has ever had are my parents and I know they haven't done anything. Her father and I are just mortified (especially him) and don't know what to do. We've scolded her for it and she just gets mad and screams and then goes back to doing it once we quit watching her. I thought maybe it was a stress reliever for her, but now I'm noticing that she's doing it at any time of the day...stressed or not.
Has anyone here had experience with something like this? I've researched and can't really find info on what to do with a 2 year old. She doesn't exactly understand me saying to only do this in her room when alone (like I've read in other advice given). I don't want to punish her and give her a complex about her sexuality for later when it's appropriate (with her future husband).
What would you do in this situation??? Help! We're even hesitant to put her in the church nursery for fear she might do this there!
I have a question pertaining to my 2-year-old and her habit of masterbating. This is so embarrassing for me and my husband.
Ever since she was around a year old (a little younger maybe, too) she has been...uh...how to say this...doing various things in order to feel a certain something *down there*. At first, we noticed she was pushing and rubbing against the thing that goes between the legs on the highchair. She would get herself going (pushing and rubbing) so much that she'd break out in a sweat, breathe heavily, and then at the end look like she was completely tired out (much like we all do after a romp in the hay). It was so embarrasing if we were with any friends or family.
As time went on, she was doing the same thing in her carseat against the part that goes between her legs. We've taken her out of the highchair, but she still finds ways to do this. She'll sit on the steps or on one of the small kid size chairs we have and squeeze her legs together while pointing her toes, and just move her hips up and down until she gets what she wants. Thank goodness she hasn't figured out she can do the same thing with her hands.
I can tell you that she has never been in a situation where anyone has touched her inappropriately. The only babysitters she has ever had are my parents and I know they haven't done anything. Her father and I are just mortified (especially him) and don't know what to do. We've scolded her for it and she just gets mad and screams and then goes back to doing it once we quit watching her. I thought maybe it was a stress reliever for her, but now I'm noticing that she's doing it at any time of the day...stressed or not.
Has anyone here had experience with something like this? I've researched and can't really find info on what to do with a 2 year old. She doesn't exactly understand me saying to only do this in her room when alone (like I've read in other advice given). I don't want to punish her and give her a complex about her sexuality for later when it's appropriate (with her future husband).
What would you do in this situation??? Help! We're even hesitant to put her in the church nursery for fear she might do this there!
I cannot belive that so many people are on here saying that their young children are masturbating and yet some of you are saying it's not normal, i looked on here because i have been having the same things with my daughter who is almost 4 and been doing it since she was about 2. after reading all this I am now not at all worried, if somany people are in the same situation it must be normal.
I think it's great that you are offering your advice here, but please try not to be so rude to others. All of us here do the best we can, and offer opinions based on our own experiences. Most are not experts and this is a peer to peer forum. I see you are new to MedHelp, so just wanted to point out that telling someone to Shush is perhaps not the kindest way to disagree with their thoughts. I happen to agree with your opinion, but around here we try to respect each other.
Sorry I worded that wrong, ignore it before they get to about 3 n when they r close to starting school explain to them that when grown ups want to feel that way, they go into their bedroom and do it in secret because it's a very personal thing to do and isn't something to share.
When adults have orgasms it's a totally different feeling to when a child does, as a babies privates are alot more sensitive. The feeling of sexual pleasure to a toddler is more of a soothing relief feeling. Like when I was little I used to have my mum tickle the inside of my forearm, was also for a soothing feeling.
When adults have orgasms it's a totally different feeling to when a child does, as a babies privates are alot more sensitive. The feeling of sexual pleasure to a toddler is more of a soothing relief feeling. Like when I was little I used to have my mum tickle the inside of my forearm, was also for a soothing feeling.
Why post a response when you clearly have no idea what your on about, your opinion isn't fact so shush. I am in university studying child psych and child masturbation IS TOTALLY NORMAL! it usually starts around the age of 1-2 when either potty training starts and they are being freed of their nappy or could be any reason but it DOES happen. Like children have different preferences of toys, foods, colours, some children like to feel stimulation to their private parts. It's not sick, it's not weird, Its a totally natural behaviour. Take spitting for instance, you should never punish a child for spitting as they will realise that spitting is naughty, and when that child WANTS to be naughty they will do it again and the same with swearing, just act like you haven't seen it. Like with children masturbating, u dont want them thinking masturbating is naughty cos as they grow up and the relationship between teen and parents get rocky they will more than likely sleep with any Tom **** n Harry, because she feels like rebelling. DO NOT LET YOUR CHILD THINK SHE IS BAD FOR DOING THAT.
And in relation to thinking it's related to being abused... Load of rubbish. Infact, more children then none, who have been abused will act like their privates don't exist as although a child doesn't know that she's being 'abused' as such, it is still traumatic to them, and then think that their privates are bad things.
And in relation to thinking it's related to being abused... Load of rubbish. Infact, more children then none, who have been abused will act like their privates don't exist as although a child doesn't know that she's being 'abused' as such, it is still traumatic to them, and then think that their privates are bad things.
Thank you for your comments...my 7 year old is autistic and bipolar and we had problems with her masturbating in early childhood. It was excessive when I was admitted into the hospital for 3 weeks and her dad continued to take the kids to early childhood. I also thought she was having a seizure when I first saw her masturbating on the floor in her front room (she had just started new medications-mood stabilizers). The principal at the school called social services on our family for her coming to complete orgasms (This sickened me thinking they watched my daughter the whole time she was masturbating at school). I took my concerns to her pediatrician, who told me if he called social services on kids about masturbating he would be calling them all day long. I have since also learned that hypersexuality is a quality associated with bipolar. I have talked to my daughters psychologist and what you say is correct, if not handled appropriately, this could cause issues later in life regarding my daughter's future relationships and sex life. We have taught her that it is not okay to do around other people and that the only appropriate place is her bedroom or her bathroom alone....Thank you again for your comments
I both masterbated and wet the bed from a very early age, i used to place myself on the end of a desk and point my toes stimulatng my clitorus to feel good, i had no idea what i was doing and i was told off everytime i did it too, i suffered years of not being accepted my both my peers and my family because of this and today i struggle with self esteem as a result
my advice is seek professional help, i'v been holding this problem for 30 years and after five years of councelling I'm only just starting to come to terms with it now, It really has ruined my life and caused me so much pain confusion and damage please help your child, keep looking till you find the right therapist because the older you get the harder it becomes to accept
my advice is seek professional help, i'v been holding this problem for 30 years and after five years of councelling I'm only just starting to come to terms with it now, It really has ruined my life and caused me so much pain confusion and damage please help your child, keep looking till you find the right therapist because the older you get the harder it becomes to accept
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