My wife (32) and I (30) have 2 beautiful children, we have a 1 year old son and a 4 1/2 year old girl. The problem we are having is that she is hitting at preschool. She is a very active child who requires tons of attention. My wife and I both work a 8-5 schedule Monday - Friday. She has been at this daycare for 2 years now and is well adapted. About 1 year ago, she had a bout with biting other kids at preschool, and after curtailing that by taking away privleges at home and rewards (small sucker) she stopped. This past week was especially bad, she hit 3 or 4 different kids off and on throughout the week. It was always impulsive, there is no time for the teacher to react. When asked why she did it, her replies switch between "I don't know" and "he was bothering me", but is quick to say she is sorry and apologize (don't know if shes scared that she is in trouble or impathetic)." Its almost always boys. The teacher says that the triggers can range from a kid being too close to her, to they were playing with something that she wanted. I think if she thinks a boy is bothering her, she just reacts and slugs them. The teacher says she can be having a great day and then this happens. We found out how bad it has been 2 days ago. We took all TV privleges away from her over the weekend and hope by reiterating that we don't hit friends at school ( and maybe a reward) that this will work. The teacher says that suprisingly even though she hits the other kids, that they still migrate too her to play. She hardly ever hits at home and I mean hardly ever. She is a very rambunctious kid at home with tons of energy and always in your face. She seems to be reacting great with her 1 yr old brother, and revels in the fact that she is big sister and enjoys him (other than the "I was playing with that" statements). Some of our friends always talk about ADHD, but I don't jump that quickly on that bandwagon. She is very intelligent, but I am worn out over the course of a weekend from dealing with her constant need for attention. Its sad, but I sometimes look forward to Mondays to have a break. I want my time with my daughter to be looked forward to. Maybe I just need more patience.......
Any help
Concerned DAD