Hello I have a 4 year old who is so out of control I am losing my paitence.
He angers me soooo bad he yells hits says bad words and pushes me Mind you he is 4 he makes threats to his brother and sister that I can not believe come out of a 4 year olds mouth a few days ago he said he wanted to kill my husband because he made him go to his room for being bad.
We have tried every form of dicapline there is and to no avail.
He just seems to fly into even bigger fits of rage throwing things yelling hitting the walls and screaming.
I am such a mess I dont know what to do?
I am considering a mental health profesional but if anyone else has delt with a small child like this I would appreciate any info anyone has.
I tell him to eat he just does what he wants I tell him to clean his room and he screams and throws a fit and makes the mess even bigger.
Today I took away his favorite toy because he threw it at me and when I turned to walk away and put it up he ran at me and hit me in the back so hard he hurt me.
Any way I must go for now My email address is ***@**** if anyone would like to email me.
Thank you, MomofCD
Boy...I can relate to you. I'm going through the same thing with my 5 yr old daughter. She's such a sweet child but all in the same she shows no respect for authority. I tell her to put her shoes away and I get "No I don't have to, you're not my boss" or "you don't do anything for me so I won't do anything for you". I often cry because I don't know what to do with her. She is the youngest of 2. Our older daughter never did this. I'm a stay at home mom and devote all my time to my girls. We've tried sending her to her room, to taking away her TV, spanking (which I absolutely do NOT like, makes me feel worse), to reward programs, and nothing works. I've tried to coax her out of this behavior by joking around and making light of the situation and it still doesn't work. She is a very good child at school and seems to be doing well. I'm like you afraid that I will have a out of control teenager that I can't do nothing with. I'm at my wits end! I feel like I'm neglecting my 9 yr old to deal with her outrages. Sadie if you'd like to talk sometime, you can email me at ***@****. Best of luck to you....I know it's very trying.
I'm not sure innovative is the way to go. Rather, I'd suggest the old tried-and-true. In particular, do not anabdon time out as the bedrock of the discipline part of an approach. Rather than go into detail here (it would take too long), I'm going to ask you to read Lynn Clark's SOS: Help for Parents. This sytem will work, if you are faithful to it.