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8-YEAR OLD BOY WITH EMOTIONAL/BEHAVORIAL PROBLEMS

MY STEP-SON,WHO LIVES WITH HIS MOTHER IS HAVING PROBLEMS.FIRST LET ME TELL YOU ABOUT JORDAN. KEN THE MAN WHO HAS RAISED HIM SINCE ABOUT 6 MONTHS OLD IS NOT HIS BIOLOGICAL FATHER. JORDAN DID NOT FIND THIS OUT UNTIL HE WAS 5 YEARS OLD AND STARTING PUBLIC SCHOOL. KEN WHILE MARRIAGED TO JORDAN'S MOM HAD PLANNED TO ADOPTED JORDAN, BUT NEVER DID. ABOUT 3 YEARS AGO KEN AND JORDAN'S MOM DIVORCED AND WE MARRIED. IT WAS A VERY UGLY DIVORCE. JORDAN WAS USED AS A TOOL BY HIS MOTHER AND KEN'S MOTHER AGAINST KEN DURING THE DIVORCE. SINCE THEN THINGS HAVE SETTLED DOWN AND WE ALL GET ALONE WELL NOW AND JORDAN AND HIS MOM LIVE ON OUR LAND AND COME SEE US AS OFTEN AS HE LIKES. WE HAVE NO LEGAL RIGHTS TO JORDAN BUT WE LOVE HIM AND TREAT HIM LIKE KEN'S CHILD. IN THE LAST 3 YEARS THAT KEN AND I HAVE BEEN TOGETHER I HAVE SEEN MANY THINGS IN JORDAN THAT BOTHER ME. HE CHASED ONE OF MY CHILDREN WITH AN AXE AND THREATENED TO KILL HIM. HE CHASED HIS BIOLOGICAL BROTHER (MARTIN) AROUND THE KITCHEN TABLE WITH A BUTCHER KNIFE.
LAST YEAR HE ALMOST GOT SUSPENDED FROM SCHOOL FOR STEALING A POCKET KNIFE FROM HIS GRANDMOTHER'S HOUSE AND TAKING IT TO SCHOOL. HE TALKS UGLY, USING PROFANITY REPEATEDLY EVEN AFTER BEING PUNISHED FOR IT. HE SUCKS HIS THUMB AND BENDS HIS EAR TO RELAX AND GO TO SLEEP. HE LIES. HE STEALS. RECENTLY HE STOLE $20.00 FROM A FAMILY MEMBERS PURSE AND GAVE IT TO ANOTHER CHILD FOR A PLANE. WHEN ASKED DID HE HAVE TO HAVE IT BAD ENOUGH TO STEAL FOR IT HE SAID "YES". HE OFTEN HAS TROUBLE PLAYING IN GROUPS BECAUSE IF THINGS ARE NOT DONE HIS WAY HE WILL WALK OFF MAD, POUTING AND PLAYS ALONE. HE SEEMS TO HAVE NO CONSCIOUS ABOUT  HIS ACTIONS. HE IS AGGRESSIVE. HE IS DISTRUCTIVE. HE IS SELFISH. HE IS SELF-CENTER. HE DOES NOT ACCEPT BLAME. PUNISHING HIM DOES NOT SEEM TO WORK. HE IS MANIPULATIVE. HE ALWAYS WANTS MATERIAL REWARDS FOR THINGS AND IF HE THINKS HE WILL GET SOMETHING HE REALLY WANTS HE WILL BEHAVE APPROPRIATELY FOR THE TIME IT TAKES TO GET IT. HE REQUIRES ALOT OF SLEEP. HE BITES HIS FINGERNAILS. HE HAS POOR POSTURE.
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Nikki  First off I would like to send my deepest sympathy be cause I myself and having one of those how you should call it is no trem anloogy what so ever but my step son in the past three years has been diagnosed with A.S.H.D (attention defacite hyperactivity disorder) as well as bipolar (mood disorder) ans then of course is mannic depression and he is omly nine he has a very high I.Q. and pretty much manipulates the system and he would """""LOVE""""" control over me and my house hold amd I'm really not prepaired to give that up although some days I feel I should just throw in the towel and walk awy but then you would be the only one hurting there and he would be 150% happy because he finally suiceeded and now it's him and daddy or vise versa and we have to stand tall and stromg amd hold our ground and place noe don't get me wrong I am the last women you will even se ebring the perfect mommies that you see and they make you sick trust me I've had visions of conflicting pain on to him but then like I said he would be winning and I can't do that so all my luck yto you and please don't let them wim and hang in there
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Nikki  First off I would like to send my deepest sympathy be cause I myself and having one of those how you should call it is no trem anloogy what so ever but my step son in the past three years has been diagnosed with A.S.H.D (attention defacite hyperactivity disorder) as well as bipolar (mood disorder) ans then of course is mannic depression and he is omly nine he has a very high I.Q. and pretty much manipulates the system and he would """""LOVE""""" control over me and my house hold amd I'm really not prepaired to give that up although some days I feel I should just throw in the towel and walk awy but then you would be the only one hurting there and he would be 150% happy because he finally suiceeded and now it's him and daddy or vise versa and we have to stand tall and stromg amd hold our ground and place noe don't get me wrong I am the last women you will even se ebring the perfect mommies that you see and they make you sick trust me I've had visions of conflicting pain on to him but then like I said he would be winning and I can't do that so all my luck yto you and please don't let them wim and hang in there
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Dear Nikki,

I understand that you do not have legal custody of Jordan, so there might be a limited amount you can do. But, you mentioned that you, your husband and Jordan's mother now get along well, so perhaps yopu can have some influence. Jordan is displaying signs of serious emotional disturbance and is in need of professional intervention. Anything you can do to help him obtain such assistance would be important.
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