About 6 months ago, just before starting secondary school, my 11 year old daughter stopped wanting to sleep in her own bed and also will not sleep through the night. This was obviously due to anxiety about starting her new school, but now it has got into a endless cycle which has resulted in no one being able to get a night's sleep. We started off being firm with her but this always ends with her shouting, screaming and throwing a fit, but as we also have a 7 year old who is fast asleep and we dont want to wake we normally have to give in. This firstly was one of us staying in her bed with her for the majority of the night but has now resulted in her coming into our bed and one of us getting out and sleeping in hers, through sheer exhaustion. We have contacted a specialist and she is going to start therapy in a few weeks as they diagnosed separation anxiety. I just dont think I can take another 6 months of not sleeping. We have tried talking her through her problems but she just says she doesnt know why. We don't even have an evening together as parents as my daughter will take up all the night getting us to come up and down the stairs to her. Any suggestions that you could make would be wonderful. I know that we have to get tough and believe me we have tried but these only work on a more placid child.