Caught 15 year old son masterbating infront of 1 year old brother

[Annmama]

Yesterday me and my Husband asked our 15 year old son to watch his 1 year old brother while we worked in the back yard for a little while. Our 15 year old was told to watch tv in the living room with all the gates shut so the younger brother would be safe. After about 10 minutes I told my husband that I was going to peek in and make sure our older son was taking care of our little one. When I peeked threw the window I caught our older son masturbating in front of the tv while the 1 year old played about 5 feet away in plain view of his older brother. (He was just watching tv, not porn).

I understand that kids masturbate and if I caught him by himself I would not be to concerned. Just a little background, our older son has been exposed to a lot of pornography when he had a game system and we were unaware he could get to the Internet. Since we found out we made sure there is parental locks and have tried hard to protect our older son from anymore elicit photos and videos. I was concerned  that he might have an addiction to excessive masturbation and now that I caught him doing this in front of our baby I am very concerned about both children. Also, our 1 year old is walking, pointing and is very inquisitive and aware of his surroundings and this is also why i am more concerned about him. Should we seek counseling for our older son? How should we handle this?  Please help?

[Concerned007oo]

Get a grip woman, first of all your one year old wouldn't know what he is doing.... If you confront him you will scar him for life -  maybe you would prefer him to be having it off with someone instead!! .... Wild suggestion but maybe look after your one year old instead of dumping it on other children.

[Unext05]

Ok what you need todo is confront your older son so we knows you see him doing it after that keep watching for a month and dose nothing your good if not ground him from ALL electronics

[Emily_MHManager]

Hi everyone -

Please keep this judgement free. Many child behavior specialists would agree that touching between siblings is normal, to a point, but that's not really relevant to this discussion. Annmama is asking about something else entirely, so lets get this back on track, and please refrain from name calling, etc.

Emily

[skepticalpeach]

I agree, I do not see any abnormal behavior. Just tell the 15 year old not to do that around the baby again. 1 year olds are not very aware of their surroundings and do not have the ability to form long term memories. So, no harm done. I do agree that getting him involved in activities outside of the house is a good thing and will help him do other things besides just masturbate, religious activities may not be the best way to go about that. There are plenty of other things that could capture his interest, like sports. I know lots of people who do not believe in God, but are great people.

I really think that most teens need to see a therapist. If you think that this could help him then go for it. No harm will come from it.

[Annmama]

Thank you for your response and yes my husband has talked to him. When I caught him my first reaction was to grab the baby and go back out side to my husband and tell him what had happened. So, yes my son knows and I am planning on talking to him tonight when he gets home.

Do you know of any other children who have done this kind of thing? I'm worried that he might need help? I just don't understand how he could think I was okay to expose his little brother to that very private act.

I don't want to over react, and I'm just very concerned and hope others might have incite or know of other kids who have done something similar. Thank you.

[Doodles_Mimi]

I CAN SEE HOW THIS IS A CONCERN FOR YOU. FIRST OFF YOU ARE RIGHT, IT IS NORMAL FOR CHILDREN OF ALL AGES TO EXPERIMENT WITH THEIR BODIES, NATURAL CURIOSITY. I AM JUST WONDERING IF THERE WAS ANYTHING MENTIONED TO HIM ABOUT WHAT YOU SAW? IF THERE HASNT BEEN YET, THERE HAS TO BE SOME DISCUSSION WITH HIM ABOUT WHAT IS APPROPRIATE BEHAVIOR. AS TO  WHEN AND WHERE THIS IS ACCEPTABLE. I AM JUST ASSUMING YOU HAVEN'T HAD ANY DISCUSSION ABOUT THIS YET. I WOULD SUGGEST THAT YOU SIT HIM DOWN AND SET SOME FOUNDRIES FOR THIS PRIVATE BEHAVIOR, THIS NEEDS TO BE DONE NOW. IF YOU HAVE ALREADY TALKED ABOUT IT BEFORE YOU MUST PRESS THE IMPORTANCE OF IT BEING DONE ONLY IN PRIVACY.