If you are using a sound plan targeted at changing negative, inappropriate behavior into positive appropriate behavior consistently you will see remarkable results. Once we started seeing results from following a plan that we developed from this book, my husband and I started feeling more confident as parents.
I was frustrated with feeling as if I was being controlled by my 4 year old and 2 year old. I was sick of yelling and feeling totally frustrated. I also was feeling guilty because I knew that I was not helping my kids develop emotional maturity and self-control. All kids need these traits to be sucessful in school and in life. Parenting isn't always glamorous neither is some of the advice that we hear. I am so glad that I took the time to read this book and set up our behavioral plan. Now, my husband and I are in control and our whole family is happier.
If you are using a sound plan targeted at changing negative, inappropriate behavior into positive appropriate behavior consistently you will see remarkable results. Once we started seeing results from following a plan that we developed from this book, my husband and I started feeling more confident as parents.
I was frustrated with feeling as if I was being controlled by my 4 year old and 2 year old. I was sick of yelling and feeling totally frustrated. I also was feeling guilty because I knew that I was not helping my kids develop emotional maturity and self-control. All kids need these traits to be sucessful in school and in life. Parenting isn't always glamorous neither is some of the advice that we hear. I am so glad that I took the time to read this book and set up our behavioral plan. Now, my husband and I are in control and our whole family is happier.
As I read the reader's reply (and her experience is typical of parents who have utilzed Clark's book), I noticed my error in listing the book. The title is SOS: Help for Parents, and it is published by Parents Press in Bowling Green, Kentucky. It is available in larger bookstores, through Amazon.com or other internet sites, or through the publisher (1-800-576-1582). For parents who are interested in helping children manage anxiety, anger and depression, the companion book SOS: Help for Emotions, is very useful and practical.
The book SOS:Help for parents is fantastic. I purchased it a couple of weeks ago and put a behavioral plan based on it into action with my two kids, 4 and 2 years old. Within 6 days, their behavior has improved remarkably. They are now following directions after being asked only once. They are getting along better and we had the most peaceful weekend ever over the recent holiday weekend. They are even better out in public, grocery store, library etc. It presents very simple techniques to shape your kiddos up with. Best wishes...
Some contrary and oppositional behavior is normal for all children, but not in a persistent, intense fashion. It sounds like your daughter is more defiant and oppositional than would be regarded as within normal limits. The fact that the behavior occurs only within the home indicates that the focus for intervention should be on the parent/child interaction. If you want to remedy this situation, please consider the following. Obtain a copy of Lynn Clark's book titled SOS: Help for Children. Follow the program to a 'T' and you will see very good results.