Preschool problem

[puccagal]

My son is 27 months and he had been going to this preschool for almost 3 months. All was good and he was having fun until one day his teacher told me that he won't reply when asked a question, doesn't follow instructions and so on. When he started school, he was kindda potty trained, like he would tell you that he needs to go pee or poo. You put him on the toilet and he would go. But his teacher said that isn't called potty trained. Potty trained means he as to go to the bathroom on his own, take off his own pants, put it back on, flush, wash his hands all on his own. So they tried to make him do that in school, he wouldn't so he would just stand there in the bathroom and freeze. (he won't cry or anything, just freeze) They wanted me to trained him at home to do that on his own and I did, he can pull down his pants and so on but he can't climb onto the toilet cause ours is the adult size not the small school children kind, he needs me to put him on there. Anyways, he can do this now but he needs some help. Then she is saying he doesn't reply back when she talks to him. He talks alot at home, sentences and so on and he will talk to all his classmates when they play but she said he wouldn't talk to her, either he nod his head, shake his head or stare at her blankly. She wants me to talk to him to make him talk to them. He goes fulll day so he would eat lunch in school, he used to eat more than 1 serving but after she complained to me about him (in front of him) he is not eating his lunch. Nothing!! If this teacher isn't in school that day, I realised that he would eat lunch that day. I wonder if this is normal? Is this too much for him? Is he slow or there is something wrong with my son? I know my son can be stubborn at times but not eating lunch at all is a concern to me cause he always have a good and big appetite. Thanks

[puccagal]

Thank you both. Yes, the Director of the school welcomes the parents to come any time for a surprise visit. She said that he is really good and well behavior in school, would sit and wait till his turns comes and listens in circle time and would read a book on his own. I mean isn't this good?? then she had to add in the "BUT" "he doesn't talk to us nor answer us" !!!
Yes, I'm serious he did all that crazy potty things on his own..cos if he wouldn't they complain to me!
I think am gonna take him out this school.

[aim7407]

Sounds like from what you describe that his teacher is a jerk to be honest. First of all, she should Not have complained or talked about his behvavior in front of him, she should have done that in private with you when he was not around. Second of all, maybe he won't talk to her because he doesn't like her, or she scares him?  And does she honestly expect a 2 year old to go to the bathroom, undress, pee or poop, wipe all on his own, and pull up his pants and wash???? That's extraordinary, and if you got him to do that, then kudos to you! He must be mature for his age, because most two year old boys won't  or can't do that!  Since he talks a lot  to you, and other kids, then I'd say it's something about this caretaker that he does not like. And the not eating thing, might be linked to her presence as well. I would just check it out, and try to do a surprise visit , drop in unexpectedly and try to see how she is treating him. I am not trying to accuse this teacher, but she sounds like she doesn't even like children and perhaps is expecting too much out of your son, for his age? I don't know. Sounds like he just doesn't like this particular lady. Either that, or some other child there is being mean to him. It could be a number of things. I would drop in unannounced , and check it out. If they frown on drop in visits from parents, then that is a Huge clue to get your son out of there! A good day care, or preschool, will Welcome surprise visits from parents, because they have nothing to hide.  Take care, I hope this helps.

[888mom]

Man, I'd try a different preschool.  Sounds like your son doesnt' like the joint and is afraid of the teacher.  Doesn't sound like there's anything wrong with your son, it sounds like there's something wrong with the teacher, and it sounds like your son has figured it out!