Should I send my 4yr old son to preschool again?

[mom779]

My 4yr old son, was in full day catholic private preschool and his teacher was e-mailing me on daily bases about his not appropriate behavior. He was hitting, pushing, not fallowing rules, talking back to teachers, having hard time to sit in the circle. His teacher suggested we should keep him one more year at preschool, because of his immature social skills, he is really smart kid: he know alphabet, numbers, shapes, he write and spell well, he does everything kindergarten student would learn. He pass to kindergarten, but school don't want him next year in kindergarten class.
What should I do? Keep him at preschool one more year? But than I think he will be bored and his behavior will worst.
Please help me!

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

You cannot help the way the school is managing the behavior. All you can do is manage it well at home. I think you should seek help, if only for yourself re: behavior management. You can arrange an appointment with a pediatric mental health professional who can guide you about the behavior.

[mom779]

What about his behavior how to help him? I already try so many things with him like: time-out, taking his privileges no tv, no friends over. I read 1-2-3 magic and  try also with him it work for us at home but at school teachers expect him to listen first time not to ask him over and over again.We are very consistent parents , we talk to him a LOT  about making good choices, by giving him examples. But when he is around kids he does not think he is very spontaneous and can't hold his emotions. Yesterday he and his friend were running and his friend won, instead congratulate him he hit him because he wanted to be first.Instead using words he is using his hands, feet and bad talk. How I can help him? When I  try to correct him or he is punish he tells me that know one likes him, no one is his friend. Next month he will turn 5yr old.

[tejodouro]

If he is only 4 and his school is telling you that he is not mature enough for K, please hold him back a year. If you think that he will be bored at this school, find a different pre-school with a different teacher, kids and courses. Been there and listened to the teacher and was happy to listen. K is very different than pre-school and if he is not ready, they will ask you to hold him back (repeat) in K which is even worse. Teachers usually know. good luck.

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

It probably will not be useful for him to repeat pre-school since, from what you say, he is ready to move on from a learning point of view. The behavior has to dealt with - that goes without saying. But the behavior can be addressed in kindergarten just as well as it can be addressed in preschool.