Our first child, when he was 8-9 months old at night he will cry so loud screaming , so me & my husband thought since we both work that we have over slept and he must have been hungry,since we did not hear him he was so angry and we try to calm him , when we carry him he would step on us crying loud and he refuse to take breast milk, and we thaught it was colic, so we gave gripe water etc always he will get calm after 10- 15 min and last option was showing our dog 2 or 3 am . Me & my husband both have very high temper. And i was a fan of thsee detective, murder case movies , eg-CSI etc..and when i was pregnant desier was so much to watch them, one time after coming home from work 7 pm in the same dress i was non stop playing with him till 4 am he wasn't giving up. 1 1/2 yrs old.We had to off the main switch.He slept as a baby 6-8 hrs only.Very very active.But something went wrong some where.He spoke little late , when we draw he was frastraited since he cant draw with his baby talk , he was crying and making us draw the same thing again and again if we misunderstood him and draw somthing else he was making a tranturm since he can't communicate.
At the age of 2 I gave up my job to look after him, once i could not understand what he was saying and when he was frastraited i tried to calm him by holding him him bit me so badly my soulder i had to remove him with great difficulty,to pull him down to the bed.To make him sleep we had to say weewilly winckie will come etc so if he is frietened them he will obey , but we know his self esteem will be low. But how to control him For him we cant decipline,he wont satisfy , there is no end if we start , even a story at night sometime it will go up to 5.By force we have to make him sleep.till now he is bedwetting.Screaming &hitting at mid night saying he has seen nightmares.He is 4 1/2 now I gave breastmilk till 3 1/2, when the second baby came now 1 yr 3 month elder ones situations worsen.His speech is still not clear, baby talk.He controls only when watching cartoons.He distroy all his cars by hitting to the ground.He prefer violence.If someone fell he laugh.He is too shy, Too scared of the dark.Dont like to stay alone.Even outside when playing someone has to be there.we spoke to a gen.psychiatric to see if he ha ADD or autism , she said none.when he was fighting to hold him , not shwing our angry face.Byforce when we do that he was more scared and his behavier is worse.
up to today he shout , so to control we have to speak to him louder.When we say , No, or don't do that it's bad he gets
angry , as he was ashamed sort of.He twist his legs together and he put all his energy to his anger...
Now 4 1/2, in our culture we hit them when they make violence to themself or others. Still with him he will come to attack , won't surrender.
I am too deppressed !!! In Pre School he is silent, but other children bully him and he gets angry and he run after then other kids enjoy this . Techers say that even to sit that they have to come and make him sit.As he wanted attension.
Sometime it is too tiering to give all the energy with house work etc.,
Now he try to be like the baby , he does what baby does.I feel like he becoming a baby sort of.
Please help me I want to save my Child and to slove my family problem.
Thanks
Udaw