Humping leads to painful pee pee

[musicjenjen]

My daughter is 6 years old, and has been humping for 2-3 years. And has a painful pee pee area. She has not been abused in that way. Our family Dr. has checked her, and we've had a sonogram to check for abnormalities. That checked out OK, axcept she didn't empty bladder completely, but they weren't concerned about it. My question is, should we go see a pediatric urologist? I have the appt., but had to BEG my Dr. to get the referral. Not sure really thinks she needs to go. My daughter tells me that her "pee pee" hurts after she has humped. Do you think she needs to see a urologist? The pain is only there after humping. Also, she has had numerous UA's & bladder infect. tests, all are negative. She's had a few yeast infections when she was 2 -3. Please respond as soon as you can. Thank You.

J.D.

[jdmgirl]

What do I say to make my 4 year old daughter to stop humping quilts I say stop doing that and then ill catch her doing it again. I clearly see its now a habbit.  Dr. Says its normal but how do I stop it

[worriedmommy04]

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[elismom1972]

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[Razorbackgal]

I think its normal. My 4 year old humps her big stuffed charachter pillows and my 5 year old discovered herself too.  They are normal kids and just are curious I guess.  Just watch that they don't start playing doctor with the kids in the neighborhood.  

[monkies3]

My 3 year old daughter does it all the time. My four year old son play with his too.
I checked out Dr. Spok's site and went to several links on the site. It says it is normal. Kind of a calming think.
It is a little wierd though. It's embarrassing when his pre school teacher told me he whipped it out in class and started doing it.
Hopefully they will grow out of it SOON!
My oldest never did anything like that so I guess I'm getting a double dose now.
We've explained that yes it is their body part, but nobody else needs to see it, especially at school. Of corse he laughed at me.
Good luck.

[bengalcats]

Thankyou for your comment, i am sure humping is normal, it just makes me feel weird to catch her, She does not do it in front af any one and hides when she does it.

[Nainay]

WHEN MY SON WAS VERY YOUNG MAYBE 4 OR 5 HE CAME TO ME ONE NIGHT AND SHOWED ME HIS PENIS WHICH LOOKED LIKE HE HAD PUT A RUBBERBAN AROUND THE BASE OF IT, IT WAS SWOLLEN AND FREAKED ME OUT I RUSHED HIM TO THE ER WHERE THE ER DR LOOKED AT ME AND SAID HIS PENIS LOOKS AS THOUGH IT HAD BEEN TRAMATIZED LIKE I WAS AT HOME BEATING HIS YOU KNOW WHAT. AFTER I CALMED DOWN MY SON TOLD ME HE HAD BEEN TICKLING IT. I TOOK HIM THE NEXT DAY TO HIS PODIATRICIAN BECAUSE I WAS STILL CONCERNED ABOUT WHY IT HAD GOTTEN SO SWOLLEN COME TO FIND OUT THE SWELLING WAS DUE TO THE CIRCUMCISION HE HAD WHEN BORN HAD ACTUALLY GROWN BACK ON ONE SIDE AND I REMEMBER THE DR TELLING ME THAT WHEN HE GOT OLDER AND 1ST HAS SEX OR GOT AN ERECTION THAT IT WOULD MOST LIKELY TEAR APART WHICH IT DID OR HAVE IT SURGICALLY FIXED. HERE I AM THINKING MY BABY WAS JUST GOING TO SITBUT THE DR DID TELL ME WHEN I WAS SO FREAKED OUT THINKING HE WAS GOING TO SIT AND JUST PLAY WITH IT OR SOMETHING HAHA THAT IT IS AS NATURAL FOR A CHILD TO PLAY WITH THEMSELVES AS IT IS FOR A BABY TO PICK UP A RATTLE. HE SAID THEY ARE AWARE OF WHAT FEELS GOOD AND TO JUST REINFORCE TO THEM THAT IT IS OKAY FOR THEM TO TOUCH THEMSELVES BUT IT IS NOT OKAY FOR ANYONE ELSE TO. HE WAS SO AFRAID TO TOUCH HIMSELF AFTER THAT AND WOULD TELL ME EVERY NIGHT WHEN I PUT HIM TO BED THAT HOW HE HADN'T TICKLED HIMSELF, POOR THING. HE IS NOW 28 YRS OLD AND HE REMEMBERS IT AND WE LAUGH ABOUT IT BUT HE SAID HE WAS AFRAID TO TOUCH FOR FEAR IT MIGHT HAPPEN AGAIN. BUT HE IS HEALTHY LOVES WOMEN AND IS VERY RESPECTFUL, SO DO NOT FEAR THE HUMPING OR TICKLING BUT YOU CAN TELL YOUR DAUGHTER TO DO IT IN HER BEDROOM RATHER THAN LET HER HUMP IN FRONT OF ANYONE, I HAVE A COUSIN THAT WOULD DO IT ON THE ARMS OF CHAIRS ETC IN FRONT OF ANYONE AND I READ ITS OKAY TO MAKE THEM BE PRIVATE WITH IT.

[bengalcats]

my 7 year old daughter has been humping too lately, i feel embarassed and do not know why she is doing it, do they start to have sexual feeling this young and could your daughter be doing it because it feels good? I have asked mine if it feels good and she cannot answer, i know she gets embarrassed because she always sneaks to do it.i do not yell at her but i do tell her not to do it and then i distract her with a fun activity.

[musicjenjen]

Thank you for your help. We have tried different underwear, laundry soap, bath soaps (which now we use babywash for private areas), and wiping correctly & completely. We will get to the bottom of this eventuallly.

[childrenrtreasures]

If she's also using her hands I would encourage her to wash them. Let her know that it may be the germs on her hands irritating her and that she needs to wash her hands before touching her genitals (we call them "girl parts" and "boy parts" at our house :) ). Don't let her think though that it's *her* that's dirty but that the *germs* are dirty.

Did the behavior possible start with irritation or itching? I have a friend that when she was a child the drs and her parents thought she was being abused due to the irritation/itching. Come to find out it was her underwear causing the problems...or rather the bleach her mom used to wash them in. Just something to consider.

My daughters (I have three ages 9, 6 and 2) get irritated from not wiping themselves very well or when they poo they'll wipe from back to front. I've tried teaching them to wipe front to back but I can't always be there to make sure that's accomplished. When they get irritated I let them use witch hazel pads to wipe with (I got them from the hospital after I gave birth...they're nonirritating and very gentle for the genital area).

I also happen to believe that she'll grow out of the frequent "humping". She's obviously not mutilating herself or obsessed with the activity. I don't know what type of behavior modifications that you could do with a 6 year old that wouldn't be potentially embarrassing for her (outside of letting her know that the only appropriate place to do it is in private...kind of like we eat at the table, wear our shoes outside, take a bath in the bathroom etc...). I usually let things like that pass and not worry about it.

It's unlikely that it's the actual activity causing the problem and more likely something on her hands or clothing irritating her.

I hope it gets resolved for you soon though. It's such a sensitive area and I would imagine your daughter doesn't particularly enjoy all the attention on her nether regions :). You'll all get through it though and hopefully with some answers.

Kelly

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

The specialist evaluation certainly makes sense, even if the findings are negative. Constant irritation in the genital area can contribute to the proble and it is worth investigating. If she's medically cleared, the focus will turn to the behavior itself. It sounds like she has developed a habit pattern that serves the purpose of self-soothing and/or tesnsion reduction. If that is the case, it will require some behavior modification to address it. For that purpose you can consult with a clinical psychologist who can evaluate her.