What I'm about to say is extremely embarassing . Also, I post this in the child behavior forum because I need to know if what I did as a 12 year old is considered normal.
When I was 12 years old I was going through a phase where I was discovering my sexuality. In fact I was quite sexual at the time, I remember masturbating frequently and using objects to aid me with it. I remember one night my cat was sleeping in my bed with me and he was being very cuddly and affectionate, and next thing I knew I began rubbing it against my bare groin to pleasure myself (who does that??!!!) About a year later I realized what I had done, and I was so disgusted with myself I spiralled into a deep depression. Things got better but I am now 23 and recent events have triggered this memory again. I now am incredibly depressed and have even been suicidal. . I should mention that I am a normal person! I am NOT attracted to animals, and this incident never happened again. Also, I was NOT sexually abused as a child.
I have been told I was just being curious. However, I was already aware of my sexuality, so maybe curiousity isn't the case. I was obviously turned on, because why would I have done that otherwise?
First of all, was rubbing it agains my groin considered sex? I am sooooo terrified that it was. At the time I didn't think that's what I was doing! I think I was just tring to masturbate. Both therapists have told me that no, it was not sex, or bestiality. But I am still very depressed and upset. My biggest concern is that I feel like a fraud. I'm constantly thinking: "what if my boyfriend knew? or my friends knew what I did when I was a child"? I feel guilty and that they would think I am a disgusting person if they knew, even though it happened when I was 12. Am I overreacting? Is this something I should be concerned about (as in my boyfriend or friends knowing??)