almost 3yr old disruptive at preschool

[drenzy]

My son will be three in three months.  We recently(2 months ago) placed him in a preschool 2 days a week for 3 hours at a day.  On several occasions the teacher has mentioned that he throws toys, stands up during circle time and yells, runs off when he should be sitting during snack time and refuses to cooperate when asked to do a task.  The teacher said she placed him in time out but it has not corrected the behaviour.  When I went to pick him up from school yesterday the teacher/owner told me my son tore up toilet paper in the bathroom sink, turned on the water and overflowed the bathroom.  She said he also threw a roll of toilet paper into the toilet on several occasions.  After telling me this she said she did not feel he was ready for preschool and asked that he not retun.  

At home he does challenge my husband and I but we stand strong and use time out when he acts inappropriately.  He listen for the most part.


What is your opinion on this?

[Tula]

I so agree with children r treasures, just because a child displays certain behaviors doesn't mean he/she is adhd or whatever else.  my goodness 2 almost 3 thats just a baby if you ask me.  why are we so in a hurry to grow our children up in todays society 16 year old girls look like they are 30.  love your kids have fun with them make every moment count I am very close to all my kids 5 girls and 1 boy 15years to 20 they are all different have different needs buy i allowed them to have bad days frustrating times its all about growing up.  its up to us with Gods help to give our children the tools so that they can function in this world.  we are to be the example to help them and guide them into being an adult.  I have a 17 year old daughter who has struggled alot.  she was diagnosed with dysthymia ( depression) we got her the help she needed with alot of prayer and paitience she is doing wonderful.  again its not an easy job Go to the one who happens to be the perfect parent and even his kids messed up (Adam and Eve)  its called free will and they will exercise it.  with love and boundries i believe our kids will be fine.  its about the relationship not rules that get our kids to respect and honor us as adults not a bunch of rules.  i have really enjoyed reading this forum i dont have the answers just been there i hope i have helped....
Have a blessed day!!!!

[D99G03]

I just want to comment on one thing here ... I do  not know the exact details of why your son has been medicated, but if he truly needs these meds, you need to keep trying them until you get it right?  Zombie like behavior, hiding in closets, extreme anxiety/fears is not normal behavior and is very scary to you as a parent.  I know first hand.  My 6 yr. old was started on meds at 4 primarily for severe, early, ADHD.  We started with Adderall and it was horrific for him.  Zombie-like, hallucinating, clinging to me in fear ... we had it all.  We then tried a few other meds and about a year ago hit upon Ritalin LA, which seems to be working for now.  Anyway, I just think you need to stick with your gut, that little voice ... it's ALWAYS right.  Keep trying different doctors and keep getting him tested etc. if you think someting is not right.  As far as the meds go, I'd discontinue asap.  Think of how hem ust be feeling?  Best of luck to you.

[childrenrtreasures]

You're son's behavior sounds perfectly normal. He just needs more time in the security of his home...there's no need to rush him off. He will eventually be ready.

In my small community not very many people opt for preschool. Their children are not any less ready for kindergarten and they are certainly not less intelligent or social.

Most of what is taught in preschool can be learned at home. Structure your home environment in a manner that requires your son to do certain things at a certain time. Essentially, schedule his day. Expect your son to behave politely and teach him not to interrupt (maybe he already knows these things). Children learn quickly to raise their hand at school, wait their turn to use the bathroom but expecting such a young child to do so much before he's ready is like trying to get a baby to walk at 4 months...it's not going to happen.

The fact that he's "almost 3" means that he's only 2. I also have a 2 almost 3 year old. She exhibits similar behavior as your son. She doesn't go to preschool and we don't intend to send her (we homeschool). For now we maintain routine and encourage her to be a "big girl" while letting her still be the 2 year old that she is.

I take comfort knowing that in 10 years it's not going to make a difference. Your child will learn how to cooperate, read, write and do all the things he's required just fine even if you never send him to preschool at all.

Enjoy the time you have with him while he's still little. I know many parents who look back and have regrets because they rushed their children into growing up too fast but I don't think there's a single parent that wishes they wouldn't have made more time for their children :).

Kelly


P.S. The fact that you're concerned shows that you're a good mom and doing the best you can...that will go a long way in your son's development (which seems to be right on target BTW).

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

I tend to agree with the preschool teacher. There is some chance that he is not having sufficient exposure to the preschool program. That is, children often do better when they are in their preschool program the majority of the school week. Only then does it take hold as a substantial portion or component of their usual structure or routine, and this tends to help alleviate behavioral problems.

[4beautys]

IHAVE THE SAME ISSUE MY SON IS 3 AND HE IS IN PRE-SCHOOL AND HE HAS BEEN PUT ON RIDALIN, ADDERALL XR, CATAPRESS AND ALL THEY KEEP DOING IS MAKING IT WORSE AND SOME DAYS HE IS SO UNCONTROLABLE AND IT GETS REALLY EMBARASSING LIKE AT THE STORES WHEN HE HOLDS ON TO THE CART AND WONT LET GO. HE RECENTLY BIT TWO KIDS AT SHOOL AND I DID NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO IT IS HARD TO CONTINUE TO DISCIPLINE HIM ALL THE TIME BECAUSE HE SITS AND LAUGHS IT OFF. JESSE HAS ALSO A PARALIZED VOCAL CORD DO TO A SURGERY HE HAD AT THREE WEEKS OLD DO TO HIM BEING BORN THIRTEEN WEEKS EARLY. WE HAVE HAD NOTHING BUT PROBLEMS IN THE LAST TWO YEARS AND I THOUGHT I WAS ALL ALONE. I CRY ALOT OF TIMES BECAUSE I AM AT A LOST AT WHAT TO DO. IF WE SHOULD KEEP HIM ON MEDS THAT MAKE HIM A ZOMBIE WHERE HE WAS HIDDING IN CLOSETS AND HE WOULDNT TALK TO US HE WOULD JUST STAND THERE AND LOOK AT ME. I HAVE HAD HIM TO A NEROLIGIST IN DETROIT AND THEY ARE JUST AT A LOST WITH HIM THEY HAVE DONE NO TEST AND THEY ARE JUST THROWING HIM ON MEDS AND IT MAKES ME WONDER SOMETIMES. I HAVE ALSO MAYBE A SUGGESTION TO HAVE A BIO-FEEDBACK THAT MAY HELP PIN POINT WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOUR CHILD I AM SCHEDULED TO HAVE THAT DONE NEXT WEEK. KEEP ME IN TOUCH IF YOU FIND ANY SOLUTIONS