My 5 year old son seems to be so angry these days. Whenever we ask him to do something or correct him on anything he instantly starts screaming at us, balls his fists up, and has often been known to actually hit, kick, pinch...etc. us. I thought it was just a phase but it has only gotten worse over the past 6 months to a year and it is really worrying me. He gets mad at his little brother and immediately hits, kicks, bites, scratches...you name it...and sometimes even grabs him by the throat and chokes him. I don't know what to do. We try to calmly stop him but he just ignores us until eventually we end up losing our temper too. We know this isn't good for any of us and we are afraid he will really hurt someone or himself one day. What can we do? Will he out-grow this or does he need to see someone for it.
He is also a very creative child, always coming up with "projects" that he wants to do that are above the capability of a 5 year old, even most adults for that matter. Things such as cooking gourmet meals, building real laboratories, a working robot, his own house out of actual building materials. We have tried to let him make "pretend" versions of these things but he is just not interested unless it's the real thing. Could his behavior be a product of his pent up creativity? If so, what can we do to help him release this energy in a positive way, in a manner suitable for a 5 year old?
I am a teacher and have seen many things but this tops the list. I am out of ideas and at my breaking point. PLEASE HELP!!