Confused of baby's father

[Sarahduel]

So I have dating my bonfriebd now for 5 years. I am due on July 16. In October me and my boyfriend were fighting a lot and took a break and I saw someone else from oct 4-oct 20.. Only had sex 3 times... We didn't use protection but he did not ejaculate. I metup with my boyfriend oct 23 which is my eligid connection date and we had sex and he ejaculated in me.. I took a plan b pill but it must've not worked.. Is the baby's father my boyfriend?

[AnnieBrooke]

Just be plain with the doctor that you need the closest possible estimated due date from those early ultrasound results, because you had broken up with one guy and gotten together with another in relatively close order, so you are trying to figure out who has the best chance to be the dad.  It's not the first time your doctor will have heard that story.  I tend to go with what is printed on the ultrasound report, unless for some reason it is based on someone's reported first day of their last period and that date is not consistent with what the ultrasound says.  What you ideally want it a date based only on what the early ultrasound says.  You're in kind of a spot anyway because by your 11th week, the ultrasound is not going to be pinpoint reliable for saying you absoulutely conceived on a certain day.  But it will help you to talk to the doc.  Bring the picture with you and a calendar, and show the doctor on the calendar when you had sex with the guys and when the ultrasound was, and what counting back gives you.

[Sarahduel]

I know... I didn't notice the week on the picture until I had already left... I am going to ask why that was next time I see doctor

[AnnieBrooke]

Did the tech, or did the doctor, explain what he or she was talking about when "the pic" said 11w2d and the tech said 10w1d?  This is important, because if "the pic" is correct, you got pregnant on or around October 15, indicating the guy you got together with in October, and if the tech's verbal comment is right, you got pregnant on or around the 23rd, which (given the margin for error of an ultrasound in a woman's eleventh week) could implicate either guy.

Incidentally, there is such a thing as prenatal DNA testing for paternity, that does not involve anything that would harm the baby.  It is done by a blood draw from the mother (her arm) and swabs from the possible father(s).  But it is nearly ten times the cost of doing a DNA test once the baby is born.

Anyway, please explain how the tech explained that he or she was going to tell you something that was not going to be consistent with what is on the face of your ultrasound report.  Did you ask the doctor to clarify this?  They should not have left you hanging with inconsistent information.

[Sarahduel]

I am now 15 weeks today

[Sarahduel]

Ultrasound was on 12/19 the pic said I was 11 w 2d but ultrasound tech said I was 10 w 1 d

[AnnieBrooke]

Sarah, when did you have the ultrasound that they used to give you the due date of July 16?  You did say that it was given to you from the measurements of an ultrasound, is that right?

[greygina]

I had sex with my boyfriend october 10 and actually got pregnant the 14th so im 14 weeks 5 days but measuring 14 weeks 1 day. If u had sex with your boyfriend around those days then its probably his considering your due date is july 16 n mine is the 17th

[Melissa_25]

I think with the days you had sex with the two different guys being so close together it would be hard to guess which guy is the father. I'd say wait until you have the baby and do the paternity test then. Be honest with your boyfriend though. He should at least know there's a possibility it might not be his. I've been in your shoes and it's hard but it's something you need to do as a woman and a soon to be mother. You have to take responsibility and just fess up to your boyfriend. He may be upset but that doesn't mean he won't still love and support you. Mine did and I got lucky that mine was his baby. Good luck to you!

[Sarahduel]

I want to do a fan test now but it'll harm the baby. But my bf wants to move in before its born I'd feel more guilty not knowing who's it is U know idk what to do

[momtoscarlett]

BC it takes awake to concevie well the 2 weeks and then the baby starts to grow and that's when they start counting the days and weeks of how long you've been pregnant.

[Sarahduel]

July 16

[Sarahduel]

This is so confusing and hard I wish I never did that! Ugh! A precious baby will be born tho on the up side of things!  So on oct 9th I got pregnant? How? Well not how but idk that's confusing

[ftmapril15_]

Okay well id say its your boyfriends baby, bc it can take up to 2 weeks to conceive. Id relax , take a shower or sum you shld be fine when is your due date?

[momtoscarlett]

So it's probably your boyfriends if you didn't have sex with him until the 17th

[momtoscarlett]

You got pregnant on October 9th says the calendar I looked uo

[Sarahduel]

Sometimes my periods are off by days

[Sarahduel]

Between those weird periods in sept and oct I kno I was with my current boyfriend. I didn't see the other guy until oct 19 . I usually get them towards the end of the month or beggining but I got a period end of sept nd begging of oct I told doc they didn't Wana listen they're going by ultrasound nd baby's measurments .. But idk thru even said at first it could've been implantation bleeding im like having a meltdown rn nd I kno it's not good for baby

[ftmapril15_]

So when is the last time you had intercourse in between those periods of time? Maybe t wasnt your bleeding but implantation bleeding, also since when you are pregnant you get more sensitive down their while pregnancy that can cause you to bleed. So how regular are your periods and when do you usually get them?

[Sarahduel]

Yes I am aware of my mistake if I wanted to be judged about it I wouldn't have posted it.. I need suggestions.. Answers.. Help.. Anyway it's hard to figure my conception date bc my periods from sept to oct were odd. I got a period sept 19 again on oct 2 lasting 3 days and again on oct 9..

[Gorda72915]

I wouldn't suggest you taking a paternity test while pregnant, if you are pregnant and take the paternity test it can make damage to the baby .

[tauruan92]

Yes you can they test your blood vrs theirs some kind of way but they will wait a little later in pregnancy probably when you are 6 months I'm not judging but you should have used protection because a baby is not the worse thing that can happen he could have had a disease you would have had too live with

[kendallleblanc]

I'm pretty sure there is a test u can do while pregnant..

[Tavi12]

Be a woman and tell your boyfriend then get a paternity test after you have the baby if you didn't want the other guy to possibly be your babies daddy then you should have used protection

[Sarahduel]

I am 14 weeks and 6 days