How to tell if she is lying about pregnancy

[buddyluv]

Hi, this feels kind-of like a childish question, but its eating me up so i would love your help in this matter please. I just told my GF i dont want anything to do w/her anymore because i found out she has lied ALOT to me and others. Well now she is claiming pregnancy. Now, i know 1st reaction is "shes lying you idoit!"   But just the fact of knowing it COULD be true is killing me. I used protection, she "said" she was on the pill. She disposed of the condom at the time "month ago" but is just now telling me it broke.  She found out at the doc. for some sort of heart tests and it came back in the blood work that there was faint but obvious preg. hormimones present. She claims that med. abor. is not an apotion because of her recent "heart problem". Surgical may not be an option either BC of her heart. All of this information has come straight from her.
       Im trying to find holes in her story to hopefully discover that she def. is lying to me again. Thats why im seeking your help because of my lack of medical knowledge.

She has claimed abuse(twice), rape(2 years ago), abortion(1 yr ago), and so on and so on. Most recently abuse between her and co-worker. She claimed broken wrist and a few scratches. I even saw her wrist and it looked terrible. Numourous post visits from him scaring her and mess. Restraining order,etc.All this took place over a 2-3 week time period. Well i recently found out that it is all untrue.   So maybe this should be in the mental forum.   Thank you for any input   -Frank

[buddyluv]

Okay, thanks. Im not with her anymore, since ive told her that ive discovered she lies alot, we havent talked at all. Then she popped up with this PG. stuff. All she does is send me messages on my phone and its driving me insane; she wont talk to me on the phone. So, friday shes going in for more "heart testing" and to see if her heart can "handle" an abortion. I guess will see how it goes.  All of your help has realy helped put me at ease for now. It is greatly appreciated! Thank you  -Frank

[buddyluv]

Well i do know her doctor because i go to the same practice as she does (that was by chance BTW). We arnt married, so could i acually ask him these questions and he legaly tell me the answers?

[da-10]

I just have a couple of things to say.  You say your gf told you she has a couple of hpt in her purse that she already took.  Instructions on those things say results should NOT be read after 48 hrs (as they may not be reliable).  Secondly, what sort of heart condition does she have?  I also have one and both my ob/gyn and my cardiologist stressed to me that carrying a baby to term could be risky and that if there came a point in pregnancy that my life was at risk b/c of the pregnancy, then an abortion would have to be considered.  My point is, carrying the pregnancy is riskier than the abortion.  I agree with the other women, have her take a hpt that YOU have purchased, go to the doctor with her. If she refuses to do these things, you can almost be certain she is lying.

[flower2]

Frank I was dating a guy who told me he was dying of cancer. I of course believed him. When you really love someone anything goes. So many people told me not to trust him . But he would cry and carry on so and then he even played the part limping and fainting etc. I do think he had some medical problems but not cancer and he is not dying. All this I found out from his live-in. Whom by the way he was with when he told me otherwise.

Now your story could be quite different. As the dad you have a legal right to know. If you are comfortable contact her dr. If not you will have to speak to a close friend of hers or simply wait it out. Also I do not mean any disrepect but may I suggest a paternity test. This women sounds pretty unbalanced.

[AnnieBrooke]

GOOD LUCK, Frank!  These ladies are right.  If she won't pee on the stick right in front of you, she is lying.  If she is pregnant, be sure to take a paternity test as soon as possible (which can be if she has an amniocentesis or can be after the baby is born).  Document everything about her behavior, even just as notes to yourself, NOW, so if this ever gets to a fight over custody, you will have the information to give an attorney.  And after the peeing on the stick, stay away from this crazy girl.

[buddyluv]

Thank you all for the advice. I realy means much to me. I will up-date if i find anything out. Thanks -Frank