How to tell if she is lying about pregnancy

[buddyluv]

Hi, this feels kind-of like a childish question, but its eating me up so i would love your help in this matter please. I just told my GF i dont want anything to do w/her anymore because i found out she has lied ALOT to me and others. Well now she is claiming pregnancy. Now, i know 1st reaction is "shes lying you idoit!"   But just the fact of knowing it COULD be true is killing me. I used protection, she "said" she was on the pill. She disposed of the condom at the time "month ago" but is just now telling me it broke.  She found out at the doc. for some sort of heart tests and it came back in the blood work that there was faint but obvious preg. hormimones present. She claims that med. abor. is not an apotion because of her recent "heart problem". Surgical may not be an option either BC of her heart. All of this information has come straight from her.
       Im trying to find holes in her story to hopefully discover that she def. is lying to me again. Thats why im seeking your help because of my lack of medical knowledge.

She has claimed abuse(twice), rape(2 years ago), abortion(1 yr ago), and so on and so on. Most recently abuse between her and co-worker. She claimed broken wrist and a few scratches. I even saw her wrist and it looked terrible. Numourous post visits from him scaring her and mess. Restraining order,etc.All this took place over a 2-3 week time period. Well i recently found out that it is all untrue.   So maybe this should be in the mental forum.   Thank you for any input   -Frank

[PrincessMargo]

I was married to a man that could look you straight in the eye and lie without blinking, looking down, etc. We were together for five years. He lied for months. If there's anyone that should be mistrustful of anyone, it's me. I think the best thing to do is to educate yourself on the detection of lies. Liars have a hard time looking you in the eye (they blink or look up and down). They don't fill in a lot of details. They may answer your questions with questions. They may try to start an argument about something else to avoid answering your questions. One of the best ways to tell if someone is lying is to look at their eye movement when you ask them questions. When people think, they utilize certain areas of the brain. One area is for remembering and another area is for "creating" or making up. If you google the words "lying" and "eye movement;" you should be able to find some good resources. I think if she is sitting across from you and it looks like she is looking to the upper left (so she is really looking up at her upper right), that is an indication that she is "creating" a memory, rather than accessing or remembering something.
Despite my experiences, I do believe people are generally trustworthy and honest. She may or may not have/have had issues in the past. I don't think you should necessarily discount what she is saying. My best advice is not to listen to anyone else (including me), but to follow your intuition.

[daprincess21]

i dont think this last guy was considering abortion, i think he just wanted to know if she was lying. he honostly sounds like he cares.

[Liza55]

I agree - tell her you'll go to the dr. the next visit w/ her. I can assure you that an abortion most certainly can be done w/ a "heart condition". Especially in a younger pt., you must simply choose apropriate anesthetics and be monitored ( for ex. she may not have one in a clinic w/ just an MD, but instead can be sedated at an outpatient surgery center under the guidance of an anesthesiologist or nurse anesthetist ). Actually, at a clinic, the procedure would be done under "local" where 1) she can get a shot of Nubane or Demerol for pain/ makes her sleepy and 2) they will numb the cervix w/ lidocaine (w/out epi) which will not affect her heart. Sounds like more lies, but just know there most definitely is a way to provide a safe medical abortion.

[daprincess21]

Buy a hpt and make her take it right in front of you...if she wont shes more than likely lieing to you.

[Jazzguy]

My ex-girlfriend just told me that she is pregnant. I stopped by her house, and she has a bunch of used tampon wrappers in her trash can (she is methodical about taking out her trash, so they have to have been used within the past week or so). Also, she has taken her birth control pills up through today (I discovered). In addition, even though she is only a couple weeks late, she claims to be going in for her first ultra sound this week. I asked to go with her to the ultrasound and she said no. She told me it would be too "weird". Also, she couldn't tell me a due date yet. A good friend of mine is a nurse, and she tells me that my ex is lying to me. She has a history of mental problems, and is on daily anti-depression meds. With the problems she has (some which are pretty severe), I can't help but be concerned about her having a child right now. Add in the fact that it would be my child as well, and I am very concerned...she has actually deceived me in the past by claiming she was committing suicide (on at least 2 occasions-the second of which I ended up calling 911). With the evidence at hand, her problems, and past history with trying in desperation to keep me in her life, my thought is that she must be deceiving me. I'm interested is some more feedback...is it possible she is not lying??

[flower2]

Clearly I am not a cardiologist nor do I play one on TV. But I have a friend with mitro valve prolapse and there were no problems/ precautions with either of her pregnancies. It is a mild cardiac concern w/meds though. Anyway, may I suggest moving on with your life. I hope in time you meet someone more level headed. Liz