I have never heard of the occlusal interference causing enamel cracks, but it makes sense.
However, in your case it sounds genetic. Everyone is built differently, and some people have more saliva flow and slightly different saliva contents than others.
For most of us, removing teeth is an absolute last resort.
There is not much I can suggest without knowing your history and what state your oral health is in now. You might try finding a specialist (AEGD or prothodontist) or go to a dental school (multiple people can solve a difficult problem better than one).
If you perform dental hygiene properly, including flossing, and you still have interproximal caries developing quickly, the possible cause is occlusion. it's written in the textbook that occlusal interference may cause enamel crack. which is susceptible to caries development.