She say she was hot for her old lover all the time

[wayland]

I love a lady who I have lived with for 1 year now. Sex was great at first. Now it's every two weeks or so. She is always telling me how hot and horny her old lover of 8 years made her, She wanted sex with him almost every day she says. It's been 2 years since there breakup. She tells me I am a great lover when we make love. My problem is 1. sex every 2 weeks is no good for me. 2 hearing about her old lover is no good for me. We both are willing to work this out if we know what to do. Thanks, Wayland

[Sirmodgod]

I really can't help you with this one. I have a very long, thick penis and the ladies worship it. One trip to Haulover on the weekend (our local nude beach) and I have women asking me to go out. Couples inviting me out, etc, etc... Maybe you have a cervical problem or a low cervix. Good luck! I'm sure you just made a lot of men with little weenies very happy!

[Misty1]

I was married for 8 years to a jerk. Then I had a boyfriend after being divorced for a couple years. That boyfriend turned out to be a jerk LOL. Now I have been with my fiance for 2 years now and we were friends for about 15 years before we ever started dating or anything. I may have alot of psycological issues going on with me right now but I am not too screwed up to know that penis size does not matter! You sound like an 18 year old talking!
   What makes the sex great is the love you have for each other. My fiance is also my best friend he is the first man I have ever felt real love from and I have for him. Just our strong love for each other makes us want each other all the time. And on days we don't, who cares.....there are much more important things in life. We are just happy being together.
  I laughed when I read what that person said about getting into the porn industry or something. I can't believe that is what concerns you in your relationship!
very immature.....grow up!

[orchids]

Lady, I really think you have a mental problem. Sex is NOT only about penis size. Why do you think only about the size. There are plenty of other acts and situations that make love (or sex for you) enjoyble! If you the only think that matter is size...do you think anybody can help you just listing all the lengths found in your relationship? You should see a therapist and have a little chat. BTW, what does your boyfriend think about this little obsession?

[TeeJo]

well c'mon now folks, why NOT get down n dirty w/ her problems? i find it kind of fascinating -- like a train wreck -- nope, couldn't turn my head even if i wanted to

jerry springer look out

um. but for wayland & his missus. i'd say you're both kind of defensive. him about not pleasing & her about not giving it up enough -- which is natural when things aren't going right in the bedroom. but if you try to take that down a notch & actually listen to each other (vocally, mentally, physically) you'll get to a new place with each other.

it's not easy tho' -- my exp. in relationships is it's like organizing your room -- it's not like you can do it once & the room's clean forever, you have to keep & tweaking & every now & then it's just gonna be a mess, period. but you can clean it up

or ...i guess you can always get a new room too..that's an option

[Roger Gould, M.D.]

You are starting to do the right thing now by talking about it and identifying the first definition of the problem.  Now you have to go further and figure out why this is happening.  A good marital therapist can help. You also might get some help if each of you go to www. masteringstress.com and take the relationship quiz and follow through to get the full report, and work the sessions that take you to the next level and provide the substance you need to talk about. Once you have done that, if you want more help, ask for a consultation and I will read what you have done and see if I can help you directly.

[I'mallheart]

try having sex with a reindeer..come on what the heck tis is mental health forum not SEX ED

[tassidy]

I forgot to mention that my boyfriend Wayland is larger than the last 2 men in which I really had great orgasms with, and I want to know if the size has anything to do with having orgasms and thoroughly getting the most pleasure out of your sex life. Wayland says it shouldn't matter the size of penis, and a woman should stretch to fit the man.  I don't feel this is so, but please tell me your opinion.

[sunf]

oh man..the dr is going to have fun with this one.

[tassidy]

I am the lady my boyfriend is talking about and he thinks the problem is mental.  I have told him it is not mental because after being married twice to tall men who had rather large penis sizes and the sex was just a thing I didn't really enjoy that much, but did anyway.  I had not been around before I married and after the first divorce I had no other man until the second marriage.  I had an affair during my second marriage to a man whom I got pregnant by on the first encounter, who had a much smaller and shorter penis that did not go into me as far, and it was a much different sensation and feel than my husbands or boyfriend.  I ended the affair because he was a married man, and I knew it was wrong. I never took birth control with husband number one or two, and never got pregnant. I then had 8 years with a man the same size as the man I had an affair with and the sex was fantastic and I had orgasms regularly and couldn't get enough of him.  I want to make it work with my boyfriend because we have everything in common and enjoy being with each other, but our problems are sexual and financial.  He is correct about me not wanting sex but about once every 2 weeks because I don't have the desire that much.  Can you help?

[dragongt]

You two must really have a significant problem mentally. Considering sex as a problem the way you put it is outrageous. The way I see it, this is a mental health forum, not a porno. I am obviously not a doctor (thank heavens), the non-professional advice I would give you is to meditate. Meditate very deeply and realize that sex is'nt everything in life in my own personal opinion and if it is for you than I would suggest you both become part of the porn industry. I have real health problems to deal with at my young age, hearing about these types of lame problem you both have is like knives stabbing behind my back.