So What do I DO?

[lifesux_thenyoudie]

So What do I do ?

I work for a big governement department. The other day I was in a meeting. I was getting critisized for what i had done at work in regard to the way i had gone about solving a problem. Its debatable that what i had done was wrong  - but thats not the point

My boss would know I have mental health issues through medical certificates from psychiatrists etc,and my work record - but its not talked about or mentioned - its confidential as I'm quite sure all health issues are in my state
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Anyway in this meeting the boss gets mad and she says to me in front of 2 of her colleagues in a raised voice

" you're more delusional than what I thought you were......."

My question is - did she just make fun at my mental health disability?

I think she did.

The colleagues were silent. I dont know what they know about my health - frankly its none of their business is it?

I admit I'm a private person and dont share easily private personal details especially those that may reflect negatively.

Mental health has a negative stigma.Lifes easier without the illness and its easier without the stigma.

I got a feeling the boss doesnt like me I get overlooked for job promotions and thats one thing - but making fun at my disability may be an offence in my state.......So what do I do?

If I draw attention to it by going to the union - well its not confidential anymore is it? Cats right out of the bag......

I dont know. I feel pretty bad - I do as good a job as i can under difficult circumstances and thats the support I get.

So what do I do?

What would you do?

[lifesux_thenyoudie]

Thanks. Thanks a lot - its nice to hear from you because you have such relevant experiences and sage advice

I appreciate it

[mammo]

I was a HR Manager for several years, and this is no way to talk to anyone privately, or otherwise.  She sounds like she's on a power trip!!  I agree that you should keep records of anything that is said, so if you sense that she is referring to your health in any way, then you have records.  I agree that there is a stigma attached to mental health issues (sadly) and it is nobody's business what your's is.  I personally like unions, and they do a lot to keep the company in-line, and keep people from being fired simply because the boss may not like them.  I think even if I didn't have any mental issues I would be offended by what she said!  If it were me, I would approach your boss in private and being very professional let her know that you were offended by her choice of words. There is a right way to say something and a wrong way, and she handled this very poorly.  I don't even think you should bring up your health issue, see if she says something about it when you talk to her. I'm sure you do a good job, and I don't think you need to hide or fly under the radar.  Talk to your union president and let him know how you were spoken to, no need to say what you think it was about, because it was wrong either way.  He will know what if anything you can do.  I'm sure your colleagues felt badly for you, and she showed such a lack of class and professionalism!  She's the one that appeared to have mental issues!  I'm sure many of your colleagues have mental issues as well, so don't feel you're alone in this.  If you don't know why you were passed over for promotions, I would get the union involved to find out why?  If she has it in for you, then you will never get anywhere in the company and this isn't fair to you.  In her position even if she doesn't like you, she should have the ability to recognize the job you do and make her decision based on that, not whether or not she likes you, it's not grade school!  She can be held liable for divulging any personal information about you to others, but you need to decide if your ready for this battle.  Maybe you can get a feel for it by just speaking with your union leader, and if you have to tell him about your health issue then do. He knows he has to keep it private as well. I don't think anyone would feel differently about you, probably relieved that they are not alone.  You know the situation best, so I may be way out of line in my thoughts.  I do wish you all the best, and hope you can get this resolved one way or another.  Take care.

[mikchez]

Hello I had a smiler event that cost me a job after 22 years I only had 8 years to retire Boo Hoo thats all I can say now, but what I wish I would have done was keep documentation on dates incidents people involved (witness's) keep a paper trail (record if possible). and let your therapist or doctor informed, have a way out and transfer out they have time on there side to just wait for the incident that could get you caned. Unions can be good and bad in my case there just part of the company there afraid of losing there jobs. Just do every thing by the book and don't take short cuts even if they have been established they just need some one to focus on don't let it be you.Work harder to keep out of sight, out of mind. Good Luck      lifesux_thenyoudie