I NEED HELP FAST

[nick767]

Everyday I come to think of gay thoughts.  I have a girlfriend and i have been with her for almost 3 yrs.  I know im not gay but my mind always tells me that i am, when that happens i go into a depression.  I really want these thoughts to go away and its been happening now for about 3 months and i dont know what to do.  I have tried just about everything,and somedays they go away and other days its all i think about.  I am really self-conscious of myself and maybe that has something to do with it.  And "not thinking about it" just makes me think bad stuff even more, PLEASE give me some useful advise. THANK- YOU

[lonewolf07]

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being gay, bi or straight.  Being gay hurts no one.  Gay men are less likely to abuse children despite all the negative stereotypes that they are pedophiles.  Gay men are not all limp-wristed, effeminate types - they are still men.  Here in Toronto, we have an annual "Gay Pride Parade".

Being gay is not a negative thing.  When was the last time you or anyone else saw a group of gay men dropping bombs, engaged in terrorist activities or things of a similar nature?

Am I gay?  No.  But I'm not a man either.

Just be who you really are.

lonewolf

  

[Hensley258]

I have to agree with Dave. I'm not Gay either, but if I were having sexual fantisies about Men, then I can assure you I would jump right in and wouldn't feel bad about it at all.

Maybe your not Gay, perhaps your Bi-sexual. Nothing wrong with that at all.
Just because you may be Gay or Bi-sexual doen't mean your a bad person.

I have Lady friends that are bi-sexual and no one thinks any less of them. The same should go for men too.

You need to do what feels right for you.

[el_dave]

Why do you say "bad thoughts"? Do you think if you were gay it would be "bad"? Tell ya what, I am way TOO heterosexual and it gets me into a lot of trouble. I've never had any interest in men, but if I did I imagine I'd just give 'er a go. I've been with lots of lesbians, and they're sure comfortable with it, and also we've had gay friends and even a relative or two.. no big deal. You can also be bisexual, and again, no big deal. Why worry about it?