I have to say I agree with Dave; I'm so sorry your feeling so down and so many negative things are happening all at once to you. You need to stay strong for your family and ask your doctor to up the Meds if you think that will help-it sounds like you should. I lost my mon when she was 62 15 years ago and my dad at 79 2 years ago. My mom needed everyday care for about 6 months and I take care of my dad everyday for over 2 years so I know how your feeling. When one is very close to there parents we never really get over it but we need to stay strong for the ones left behind. Its one thing being an alcoholic but its another thing being an total *******. With everything you and your family are going through your husband should have and should 101% there for you!!! Get through the next couple of months and then take care of yourself and your family and don't forget to smile everyday and do something nice for yourself!!! You sound like a really good person and you need to find someone as good as you.
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husband home sick - when I got home he didn't even bother to put an arm around me to comfort me. He is an alcoholic
Thanks for the support. I know my dad is going to die - just like I am going to die and so on. It's just so hard. And because my plan is to get a divorce and move once it happens I feel as if I am wishing it on him - although that is not the case. My husband is a waste of life - but I am actually lucky this weekend - he must have gone somewhere for the weekend cause his overnite bag is gone - maybe he just won't come back -
As for the boyfriend - I am too needy myself right now to have another needy soul - I actually have a male friend in another state that has offered his home to me should I find the need to get away for awhile where I won't be found. He has been there for me for 20 years or so - we probably should have hooked up back then but circumstances were not right. But we both say shoulda, woulda, coulda - easy looking back.
I think the final straw that made me start crying was when my Dad said good bye to my son, daughter-in-law and baby - my Dad cried and I am never seen my dad cry in all my 59 years. With that I have now broken into tears once again -
You have a situational depression, same as I. Listen, your Dad is going to die. You don't want him to, but he will. Mine did. It's not your doing, it's part of life. Let it happen and be happy for him, because he'll be past this vale of tears. Be sure he knows he'll live on in memory and it'll be all right.
You need a good boyfriend, that's what you need. Not necessarily sexual, but fidelity, like respect, should be earned. Emotionally your ol' man isn't taking care of you, find another needy soul who will. I apologize if that offends anyone, but I think it's a better solution than drugging ones self, light or not.
And you feel free to ramble all you want to, we're here for that, we want to share your pain and maybe put our two cents in with a suggestion or idea. The more you ramble, the more data folks have to perhaps get an idea of how they might help. And in here, by helping others one helps theirself.
If you were in North Florida I'd go get you and take you for a long ride on my bike in the sunshine and rain. That's what I think you need... if you find your equivalent and do it it would be good for you.
-El Dave